Unpolished Rewind 07: The Vulnerability Hangover

Going back a whole year with this week’s rewind! 
Have you ever woken up the day after you’ve done something vulnerable and thought to yourself – oh my goodness, what did I do?! Well, that is what Brene Brown calls a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into this topic and talk about our recent experiences and what we do to recover.
 
We examine the different roadblocks we come up against as we try to take steps forward on our entrepreneurial journeys—fear, our inner critics, the seeking of validation—and we share different ways we can support ourselves to feel more secure with our progress. We can learn from even the smallest actions we take. The vulnerability hangover can be a sign that we’ve taken a big step forward. The key is to continue to ask ourselves: what did we learn from this?

Here’s a great article on the vulnerability hangover: https://www.wsj.com/articles/you-took-an-emotional-risk-now-what-1478536377

And here’s a blog post on how to identify your Inner Critic: http://www.taramohr.com/2012/01/7-ways-to-recognize-your-inner-critic/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 43: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Elle Rowley

In our last Unpolished Journey episode of 2018, we talk with the wonderful Elle Rowley who is the founder and CEO of the baby carrier company Solly Baby. Elle made the first wrap in 2011 in the sewing nook of a little house in Salt Lake City after the birth of her second child, Solomon. Solly Baby is now a globally recognized and award-winning brand, featured in Vogue, Parents Magazine, and the Today Show. She lives with her husband and four children in Carlsbad, California.

We have a lovely conversation with Elle covering everything from the early days of creating her business, what is really was like to have her husband join her at Solly Baby, and her solid advice for every entrepreneur. Listen to the episode to hear more about:

  • The story of how Solly Baby came to be
  • The learning curve of how to manage a business with your husband and her top tip for any couple that wants to work together
  • How defining her own idea of success is key to how she stays grounded in her very full and busy life
  • The importance of community and connection and why love is at the core of everything she does in her business

You can learn more about Elle on Instagram @ellerowley and @sollybabywrap, on the web at www.sollybaby.com or https://shoparq.com/, and be on the lookout for her upcoming podcast!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 42: We Get to Choose

There is duality present within every situation—joy and pain, dark and light—and we often forget that we have the power to choose what we see.

Our thoughts create our feelings, not the other way around. When we can learn to focus and choose how we are thinking about things and how we are seeing the world, our feelings then change.

We also talk about the concept of seasons in our lives, how comparison is our default setting, and the need to give ourselves permission to feel the feelings. Happiness is more complicated than a choice. It’s the decision to be happy in the series of tiny choices we make every day.

We’d love to hear from you—how are you choosing happiness today?

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 41: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Tara Mohr

“You need to be bolder than you think you need to be.”

We are so excited and honored to be sharing this Unpolished Journey interview! In this latest installment, we talk with someone who has had a huge impact on both of our lives: Tara Sophia Mohr. Tara is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being, and an author, educator and certified coach. Tara is the author of Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead, published by Penguin Random House, and named a Best Book of the Year by Apple’s iBooks. She is the creator of the pioneering Playing Big leadership program for women, and Playing Big Facilitators Training for coaches, mentors and managers who support women in their personal and professional growth. Her work has been featured on The Today Show and in publications ranging from The New York Times to goop to Harvard Business Review. More than 45,000 women from around the world follow Tara’s writing and wisdom. She lives in San Francisco and loves dance, art, and long walks with her family.

This conversation is packed with wisdom you don’t want to miss. We talk with Tara about:

  • How and pain, self-doubt, and curiosity led to the creation of Playing Big
  • The early years of her entrepreneurial journey and how she dealt with the uncertainty and frustrations she experienced
  • The true challenge of balancing career and motherhood (and it’s not time!)
  • Her personal practices for working with her inner critic
  • The surprising truth about realizing your dream
  • And more!

Playing Big is defined as being more loyal to your dreams than your fears. And this conversation will absolutely inspire you to learn more about how to commit to that in your own life. We’d love to hear what resonated most with you from this episode. What is your top takeaway from this conversation?

To learn more about Tara’s work, you can check out: https://www.taramohr.com/ And find her on social media:

Facebook: facebook.com/tarasmohr
LinkedIn: tarasmohr
Instagram: @tarasophiamohr

To hear the story of how Tara was the reason behind how this podcast was created in the first place, check out our very first (and very unpolished) episode.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

 

Unpolished 40: Finding Alignment

How we can we ever be successful if we never own what we’re good at? In this episode, we dive into the idea of alignment and how that shows up in a work environment. We talk about:  

  • The difference between feeling important at work and doing important work
  • Why it’s so important to truly know yourself and your strengths
  • How alignment is the key to living a fulfilled life

Our gifts and talents are unique to us and might not fit inside the “typical rulebook”, but we don’t always have to listen to the experts. When we put energy into things that are rewarding, we often find fulfillment in places we least expect. To support our journeys, we’ve found these three things to be the most important: 1) know yourself, 2) hire a coach, 3) find your people.

We’d love to know—how will you find better alignment this week? What’s one decision you can make differently by acknowledging what truly makes you happy and aligns with your strengths?

Here are the resources mentioned to help you know yourself:

Get your free astrology chart

Understand your personality type

Learn your top strengths

Looking for more support? Check out the links below to see if Sarah or Stacy could be the right fit for where you are on your journey. We’d be honored to help you. You can also email hello@unpolished.community with any questions or to learn more.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 39: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Dana Malstaff (Part 2)

Success does not find you, you find success.”

Have you listened to last week’s episode yet? Make sure to catch part one of this conversation before diving into today’s episode! In part two, we continue our conversation with Dana Malstaff—the CEO and founder of Boss Mom. Dana is a mother, author, business strategist, podcaster, blind spot reducer, and movement maker. She is the author of Boss Mom: The Ultimate Guide to Raising a Business & Nurturing Your Family Like a Pro. Dana has over 20k students in various courses and community that is over 30K strong. With over 10 years of experience in content creation, marketing, sales, community building, and business strategy, Dana grew the Boss Mom brand into a six-figure business in less than a year. Her Boss Mom Movement is all about losing the guilt when it comes to raising babies and businesses at the same time, and believes that pursuing our passions and building our dreams while including our children in the process, is the best way to build thriving businesses and families.

There are even more wise gems to be found in the second half of our conversation. Listen to this episode to learn:

  • The importance of following the breadcrumbs
  • Why you’re going to overbook yourself and overpromise
  • What happens when you chase the wrong problem, and why it’s so important to talk to someone when you’re going through any kind of transition
  • The need to celebrate what you’re good at, hire people for what you’re not, and find where you waste time
  • Why starting a business isn’t just about finding your passion
  • And more!

Let us know what resonated most with you from this episode. What’s one thing you can tweak about your approach to your business? You can learn more about Dana by visiting www.boss-mom.com

Find out if Dana has a program that is right for you. (Trust us she does)

Raising Your Business

Boss Mom Academy (Join and hang out with Sarah!)

 

 

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Photo Credit: CJ Thomas Photography

 

Unpolished 38: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Dana Malstaff

“Don’t follow your passion, follow your gift.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Dana Malstaff, the CEO and founder of Boss Mom. Dana is a mother, author, business strategist, podcaster, blind spot reducer, and movement maker. She is the author of Boss Mom: The Ultimate Guide to Raising a Business & Nurturing Your Family Like a Pro. Dana has over 20k students in various courses and community that is over 30K strong.  With over 10 years of experience in content creation, marketing, sales, community building, and business strategy, Dana grew the Boss Mom brand into a six-figure business in less than a year. Her Boss Mom Movement is all about losing the guilt when it comes to raising babies and businesses at the same time, and believes that pursuing our passions and building our dreams while including our children in the process, is the best way to build thriving businesses and families.

Dana talks to us about some rarely shared stories from her entrepreneurial journey in a refreshingly honest and authentic way. The conversation was so good in fact, that we decided to split it into two episode so you can really sink into the nuggets of wisdom she shared. In this first part, you’ll hear about:

  • The origin story for how her successful business came to be
  • Mom guilt and why it’s OK to want to build your own business
  • Lessons you can learn from seemingly random jobs in the corporate world
  • The importance of understanding your business feng shui
  • Why the idea of following a sewing pattern is critical to understanding how to learn from people and programs you purchase
  • The importance of telling the universe what you want and letting it unfold for you
  • And more!

Let us know what resonated most with you from this episode, and check back next week to hear even more nuggets of wisdom in part two. And in the meantime, to learn more about Dana check out www.boss-mom.com

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Photo Credit: CJ Thomas Photography

Unpolished Rewind 8: Courage Over Comfort

It’s time to rewind to one of our oldies but goodies. Have you listened to this episode yet? 

What happens we finally take that leap and are able to move past our fear? In this episode, Stacy talks about her experience finally doing something that she had avoided for a while, and what happened as a result. We talk about why doing the scary things our intuition is pushing us toward is so important, and how we can view this process as a game instead of a scary mountain we have to climb alone.

Being authentic, vulnerable, and telling our story – whatever that may be in the moment – is all part of the process. The key is to find ways to learn from the experiences and adjust your actions from there. We also remind each other that confidence is not about having all the answers before we do something, and how important it is that we each share our unique gifts with the world. All we need to do is share what we’ve learned on our own paths so far.

We mention how Brene Brown’s work (especially this idea of courage over comfort from her book Rising Strong), and Amy Cuddy’s book Presence is really inspiring and helpful in fighting that fear that comes up for both of us. Both women have TED Talks worth watching:

Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk
Brene Brown’s TED Talk

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 37: A Tornado In Your Face

Things aren’t always supposed to feel good, and things aren’t always supposed to be easy. But, we’re never taught to accept this so when difficult circumstances happen to us it feels “wrong” or “bad”. We also often refer to life as “busy” or “crazy”, but isn’t that exactly what life is all about? Instead, we can choose to feel peace, or choose to feel balanced, and look for all aspects of life instead of focusing on the uncomfortable parts.

It’s important to acknowledge that our lives are not perfect pie charts—life changes often and we need to adjust the requirements we have for what areas need our attention and what we need in order to truly feel balance. Our challenge is becoming aware of what we uniquely need and building the ability to know where and how to adapt to what shows up.

Our reminder to you is that it’s not broken just because it’s not awesome all the time. Becoming comfortable with discomfort is truly a superpower skill worth working on. So our challenge to you this week is to give yourself permission to be okay with wherever you are at right now. How would that change your outlook today?

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Daring Greatly, Brene Brown

Mind Over Medicine, Dr. Lissa Rankin

The Whole Health Cairn

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 36: Wait For It

It’s important to take a moment to celebrate the wins when they happen, regardless of their size. The entrepreneur journey never really looks like what we imagine, and it’s important to remember that it truly is a process. All we can do is take action on whatever is calling us and simply see what happens. When you plant a lot of seeds and take steps to water them, whatever that may look like, you’ll eventually see which seeds are meant to bloom and learn from the ones that aren’t blooming.

By focusing on building trust and authentically sharing the gifts we have to give, everything will somehow come together in the way it is meant to, because there are people out there who need what we have to offer. If we’re honest with ourselves about what works for us and what doesn’t, especially around setting goals, we’ll more easily build the confidence we need to continue the momentum.

It’s also important to be mindful of falling into the trap of doing things just because you think you should be doing them and knowing when something doesn’t feel right. Saying yes to too many shoulds drains our energy and resources and we need to be aware of this so we stop giving power to the “shoulds”. What would happen if we said no? Instead, we can replace “should” with “could” or “want”. What would that look like in your life? Share with us how you’re going to rethink one “should” of yours this week — Why should you be doing it? Is that true? And what could you or want to do instead?

 Here is the link to the FB Live Sarah mentions: 

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community