Unpolished 36: Wait For It

It’s important to take a moment to celebrate the wins when they happen, regardless of their size. The entrepreneur journey never really looks like what we imagine, and it’s important to remember that it truly is a process. All we can do is take action on whatever is calling us and simply see what happens. When you plant a lot of seeds and take steps to water them, whatever that may look like, you’ll eventually see which seeds are meant to bloom and learn from the ones that aren’t blooming.

By focusing on building trust and authentically sharing the gifts we have to give, everything will somehow come together in the way it is meant to, because there are people out there who need what we have to offer. If we’re honest with ourselves about what works for us and what doesn’t, especially around setting goals, we’ll more easily build the confidence we need to continue the momentum.

It’s also important to be mindful of falling into the trap of doing things just because you think you should be doing them and knowing when something doesn’t feel right. Saying yes to too many shoulds drains our energy and resources and we need to be aware of this so we stop giving power to the “shoulds”. What would happen if we said no? Instead, we can replace “should” with “could” or “want”. What would that look like in your life? Share with us how you’re going to rethink one “should” of yours this week — Why should you be doing it? Is that true? And what could you or want to do instead?

 Here is the link to the FB Live Sarah mentions: 

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 35: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Crystalee Beck

“We have the power to create what we want. It might take time or effort, but if we’re really committed to creating what we want and have a clear vision, we can absolutely do it.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Crystalee Beck, a mama of two cute mess-makers (with one more on the way!), writer, six-figure entrepreneur, and co-founder of The Mama Ladder International, an organization that empowers women at the intersection of motherhood and entrepreneurship. After leaving her corporate ladder job, she “created her own ladder” to fit her family in 2016. You can learn more about the programs they offer here: www.themamaladder.com and follow them on Instagram @themamaladder

We talk about how the idea for the mama ladder came to be, why the moment her son was born powerfully changed how she approached her life, and how balance and motivation are the keys to managing running a business and raising kids. So many people feel torn between a career and kids, and Crystalee shows us that you can do both in ways that are healthy and joyful by creating and building your own ladder. She also shares how we can all learn from the painful moments in our lives, and why that often turns into opportunities to do something great.

After listening to the episode, we’d love to hear from you—what does your ladder look like? What is the vision of the life you’re dreaming of, and what is one small step that you can take today that will help you get there?

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 34: Fun Facts – Vol. 1

Being vulnerable, confronting our fears, taking a leap—the entrepreneur life can get super serious at times, and we thought it was time to bring some lightheartedness to this podcast and share more about who we are on a different level. So in this episode, you’ll learn some fun facts about Sarah and Stacy including:

  • Our first jobs
  • Our spirit animals
  • Our go-to karaoke song
  • Our irrational fear
  • Our favorite TV show

Sometimes it feels like we don’t bring enough of who we are to our businesses, and this is a reminder that we’re all humans, we need connection, and we need community. So how can you take a fun fact about yourself and weave it into your business? We’d love to hear it.

Here is Stacy’s wedding cake topper mentioned in the episode:

If Sarah or Stacy is the right type of support you need, we’d be honored to help you. You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 33: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Sam Kelly

“I think of failure as a closed door. It’s not a dead end, but it helps me move into a different direction. Nothing else teaches me as quickly, so then I say bring on the closed doors!”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Sam Kelly—a family film photographer @samkelly_world based in Salt Lake City, UT and co-founder of @photonative, a large annual photography conference. With a Masters degree in Art Therapy Counseling, a self-published author, and experience teaching Stress Management at the college level, Sam loves anything and everything in which personal story, creativity, and healing intersect. Currently, Sam is a homeschooling mama of three and married to the most patient, supportive guy in the world.

We hear the story of how Photo Native came to be, why she almost decided to shut it down, and how it’s so important to approach a business from a place of finding a way to meet your people’s core needs of love and belonging.

We dive into the ideas of failure and fear and talk about how shifting our view on these can have a powerful impact on our life. Sam shares how losing all her clients was one of the best things that ever happened to her, and why not seeing that as a failure was a huge part of the entire trajectory of her career. There are so many ways to define success and making money is only one indicator, not the end all be all. Her best advice is to never stop being vulnerable— truly opening yourself up to others is the way to open doors faster than anything else.

Reframing failure as a closed door has really stuck with both us, and we encourage you to try on this mindset for the week. What would that mean if you looked at your failures as closed doors? Let us know in the comments below!

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 32: Know Your People Not Your Critics

We often spend so much energy trying to convince people of our value or make ourselves into someone who we are not. It’s a disservice to people who could benefit from what we have to offer if we don’t own our talents and gifts and simply share who we truly are. Our people will be drawn to this—we don’t need to spend time explaining ourselves to our critics, yet this is what we often do.

Getting clear about who we are and what we’re passionate about is where we need to start. Working with the right type of support during this process (whether it’s a coach or a healer or someone else), can really help yet we can sometimes write these things off for being “too expensive”. There’s always a match of someone who we can afford, and it’s always worth it to make the investment in ourselves for the transformation that we will go through from working with the right person.

We need to stop waiting for the people who we think are judging to validate us. The easier route is actually to own who you are and just put it out there. How do you “do you”? What’s one thing you can do this week to own who you truly are and stop trying to convince your critics?

If Sarah or Stacy is the right type of support you need, we’d be honored to help you. You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Here are the previous episodes we mention:

Episode 10: Authenticity, where we originally talk about the metaphor of “the room”: http://unpolished.community/2018/02/13/unpolished-10-authenticity/

Episode 25: Getting Personal, where Sarah talks about her experience with her coach and the process of reparenting: http://unpolished.community/2018/06/12/unpolished-25-getting-personal/

 

Unpolished 31: Confronting Our Privilege/Part 2

Continuing the conversation we started last week, this episode looks at how our privilege shows up in the context of trying to build businesses in the wellness and coaching worlds.

We start by discussing themes from @andrearanaej’s The Color of Wellness class including the lack of diversity we see, elitism, the difference between survival and having/wanting wellness, and the difference between equality and equity.

We talk about how blame arises when we feel shame or guilt about privilege, and how important it is for us to instead confront the discomfort and do the work in order to use our privilege for good in the world.

We know this is a complex conversation, and we want to keep this dialogue open so we can all learn from each other. The first place to start is by examining our own contribution to the larger problem.

We would love to hear your voice – please reach out and share your experience with us and let us know if you’d like to join an upcoming episode to continue the conversation.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 30: Confronting Our Privilege

This is the start of a much bigger conversation. This episode is our first step in recognizing the privilege we both are afforded, how that shows up in our lives, and what we can do to start to process it. The most powerful place for us to start is self-awareness. We can’t take action until we recognize in ourselves our own biases and privileges and see how we are contributing (even unconsciously) to the problem.

The world changes when we change. We must do the uncomfortable work, to be honest with ourselves about what this truly looks like for each of us. Our guilt and shame are not productive and are certainly not going to help anyone.

We often don’t understand the influence we have, so it’s important to do the work and use our voice to speak in support of others who may not have that same privilege. So this is the start of our commitment to dive deeper into this, and we are sharing this conversation in the hopes that it will spark the same within you. Discomfort is part of the process, and it’s not a reason to turn away—it’s a sign to lean in and do the work.

This is your reminder to pause and reflect on what’s important in your life—where can you do better and help make the world a better place?

Here are the resources we mention in this episode:

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 29: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Reelika Schulte

“Be confident in your message. Know that there are people out there who need to hear what you have to share. Something that may be common sense to you, may be life-changing to someone else.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk to Reelika Schulte, an international business coach with an honors degree in business, and the founder of Design Dream Lifestyle, where she teaches women from around the world how to use their life experiences to launch their own thriving online coaching business.

Reelika shares her story of working a corporate job as a single mom, to launching a finance blog that turned into her own business which allowed her to have a more flexible schedule. We talk about the roadblocks she faced around putting herself out there, attracting clients, and taking on debt while learning to live more modestly as she pursued her dream.

We discuss how sometimes we feel like we have to be focused on a million things, but if we instead pick one or two things to give our full attention to and master those, that’s when we’ll have a breakthrough.

We also talk about the importance of asking for help and how getting support is one of the most powerful things you can do for your business. As women, we often feel like we have to do everything ourselves, but it’s critical to identify where we can save time and finances and be willing to ask for creative help on all types of things.

You can learn more about Reelika and check out her free Masterclass on building a successful online business here: http://www.designdreamlifestyle.com

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 28: Mom Guilt

It can be really hard to be all the things.

The idea of having it all is great—but we can’t have it all in every moment and we need to acknowledge the realities of the tradeoffs we make in our choices. Mom life is just really hard, and it’s time we talked about it.

We all feel different degrees of insecurities about being mothers, and these feelings of judgment are our projections of our own insecurities as we seek validation for the decisions we make. There are parallels between this and the early stages of an entrepreneurial journey. Once we have the gift of hindsight, things tend to magically look a lot rosier and the hard parts of these memories truly tend to fade.

Sometimes our best isn’t that awesome, but it has to be enough for that moment. There will always be hindsight, so even in those moments when it seems like too much, one day we’ll be able to reflect and see how it fits into the bigger picture.

How does Mom guilt show up in your life? We want to hear your story.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 27: The Emotional Rollercoaster

What makes your soul come alive? What did you love doing as a child and how does that show up in your life today?

When we start to clear away the clutter of who we think we should be and live as ourselves, there’s so much power and strength because there isn’t as much room for fear. The outcomes matter less because the feelings we’re after are felt simply by being who we are and standing in our truth.

We’re going to experience both ends of the spectrum (the high-highs and the low-lows) and we need to get comfortable knowing that neither one lasts, so it’s important to let go of trying to hold onto it or trying to resist it. It’s also important for us to feel the full range of emotions, and not only just the positive ones.

Our challenge to you this week is to feel the feelings—pick one good and one negative experience and truly feel it. Also become aware of what makes your soul alive so you can find ways to sneak more of it into your life. Let us know in the comments what this process is like for you!

And for more context, check out Episode 10: Authenticity where we originally talk about the metaphor of “the room”: http://unpolished.community/2018/02/13/unpolished-10-authenticity/  

To listen to the episode Sarah’s mentions from The Life Coach School podcast by Brooke Castillo: https://thelifecoachschool.com/189/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community