Unpolished 30: Confronting Our Privilege

This is the start of a much bigger conversation. This episode is our first step in recognizing the privilege we both are afforded, how that shows up in our lives, and what we can do to start to process it. The most powerful place for us to start is self-awareness. We can’t take action until we recognize in ourselves our own biases and privileges and see how we are contributing (even unconsciously) to the problem.

The world changes when we change. We must do the uncomfortable work, to be honest with ourselves about what this truly looks like for each of us. Our guilt and shame are not productive and are certainly not going to help anyone.

We often don’t understand the influence we have, so it’s important to do the work and use our voice to speak in support of others who may not have that same privilege. So this is the start of our commitment to dive deeper into this, and we are sharing this conversation in the hopes that it will spark the same within you. Discomfort is part of the process, and it’s not a reason to turn away—it’s a sign to lean in and do the work.

This is your reminder to pause and reflect on what’s important in your life—where can you do better and help make the world a better place?

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Unpolished 29: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Reelika Schulte

“Be confident in your message. Know that there are people out there who need to hear what you have to share. Something that may be common sense to you, may be life-changing to someone else.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk to Reelika Schulte, an international business coach with an honors degree in business, and the founder of Design Dream Lifestyle, where she teaches women from around the world how to use their life experiences to launch their own thriving online coaching business.

Reelika shares her story of working a corporate job as a single mom, to launching a finance blog that turned into her own business which allowed her to have a more flexible schedule. We talk about the roadblocks she faced around putting herself out there, attracting clients, and taking on debt while learning to live more modestly as she pursued her dream.

We discuss how sometimes we feel like we have to be focused on a million things, but if we instead pick one or two things to give our full attention to and master those, that’s when we’ll have a breakthrough.

We also talk about the importance of asking for help and how getting support is one of the most powerful things you can do for your business. As women, we often feel like we have to do everything ourselves, but it’s critical to identify where we can save time and finances and be willing to ask for creative help on all types of things.

You can learn more about Reelika and check out her free Masterclass on building a successful online business here: http://www.designdreamlifestyle.com

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 28: Mom Guilt

It can be really hard to be all the things.

The idea of having it all is great—but we can’t have it all in every moment and we need to acknowledge the realities of the tradeoffs we make in our choices. Mom life is just really hard, and it’s time we talked about it.

We all feel different degrees of insecurities about being mothers, and these feelings of judgment are our projections of our own insecurities as we seek validation for the decisions we make. There are parallels between this and the early stages of an entrepreneurial journey. Once we have the gift of hindsight, things tend to magically look a lot rosier and the hard parts of these memories truly tend to fade.

Sometimes our best isn’t that awesome, but it has to be enough for that moment. There will always be hindsight, so even in those moments when it seems like too much, one day we’ll be able to reflect and see how it fits into the bigger picture.

How does Mom guilt show up in your life? We want to hear your story.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 27: The Emotional Rollercoaster

What makes your soul come alive? What did you love doing as a child and how does that show up in your life today?

When we start to clear away the clutter of who we think we should be and live as ourselves, there’s so much power and strength because there isn’t as much room for fear. The outcomes matter less because the feelings we’re after are felt simply by being who we are and standing in our truth.

We’re going to experience both ends of the spectrum (the high-highs and the low-lows) and we need to get comfortable knowing that neither one lasts, so it’s important to let go of trying to hold onto it or trying to resist it. It’s also important for us to feel the full range of emotions, and not only just the positive ones.

Our challenge to you this week is to feel the feelings—pick one good and one negative experience and truly feel it. Also become aware of what makes your soul alive so you can find ways to sneak more of it into your life. Let us know in the comments what this process is like for you!

And for more context, check out Episode 10: Authenticity where we originally talk about the metaphor of “the room”: http://unpolished.community/2018/02/13/unpolished-10-authenticity/  

To listen to the episode Sarah’s mentions from The Life Coach School podcast by Brooke Castillo: https://thelifecoachschool.com/189/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 26: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Monica Packer

“People get caught up in not starting something because they don’t think it’s going to be successful. That’s the biggest failure of all—to not even start. Nothing is a failure if it’s leading you to something else or helping you grow.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk to fellow podcaster Monica Packer of About Progress. Monica Packer is a podcaster, writer, and recovering perfectionist.  She is a wife and mother of four young children, living in the San Francisco East Bay. Monica is passionate about empowering women to find, develop, and own their own gifts by refusing to be held back by their fears of imperfection.   

We talk about the messy and stressful process of jumping in and starting something new, what Monica learned about herself from starting a blog and then a podcast, and why it’s important to do and try things in order to discover what our gifts are.

In her work, Monica has found that everyone wants to know what their gifts are, but the purpose is the process of discovering what these gifts are because there isn’t an easy way to know what they look like. We talk about her mission to help women discover their gifts and have confidence in finding the right way to share them with the people who need them most, and acknowledge that it’s so hard to own our gifts, but we do ourselves a huge disservice but not exploring this aspect of our lives.

We also talk about the challenges of social media and the difference between being authentic vs. thinking we need to have something important to say, the struggle of untangling our self-worth from engagement numbers, and the difference between bad vs. good business decisions.

You can learn more about and connect with Monica at www.aboutprogress.com and on Facebook and Instagram at @aboutprogress. And if you haven’t checked out her About Progress podcast yet, go listen to an episode now— there are two years of inspiring conversations waiting for you!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 25: Getting Personal

This episode almost never saw the light of day—it’s a deeply personal conversation that dives into the complicated emotions that come up on the self-awareness journey. We acknowledge that part of the entrepreneurial path is digging deep into yourself and confronting parts of you that may feel uncomfortable, yet the only option to breakthrough is to simply get curious and see what you can learn. We talk about imposter syndrome, the real me vs. the not real me, what our fear is trying to teach us, and where doubt arises from. Investing in a solid foundation is where we want to focus and acknowledging the need to accept and live in gray areas is how we can move forward.

We’d love to hear from you—what’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned so far on your journey?

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 24: The Little Things Lead to the Big Things

We continue our conversation from previous episodes on the idea of “unfolding” and look at how truly surrendering to this process and noticing how all the little pieces fall into place helps take the pressure off. While this perspective is empowering, it’s certainly not our natural inclination and is a choice we have to continue to make over time by training our brain. We share specific examples from our lives as to how this is showing up for us and explore how even the small or frustrating parts of our experiences are still part of this unfolding process. If we do the work and let go of the outcomes, it’s a much more fulfilling approach.

Our challenge to you this week is to simply put something out there and be curious about what it will teach you. What’s one thing that’s inspired you or you’ve been contemplating? Go do that thing and let us know how it feels.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 23: The Power of Surrender

This episode begins with a conversation on the need to surrender and how it can actually be a good way to pause and enjoy what is right in front of us. We talk about how to approach this from a place of empowerment and remind each other that we can even be frustrated about things we are grateful for. Changing our perspectives is one of the most powerful things we can do, but changing how our brains automatically respond to things is a hard (but worthy) task to take on. We end the conversation with a discussion on the culture of busyness we find ourselves in and talk about how we don’t have to wait to have something in our lives that will make us happy but actually enjoy this moment.

We challenge each other to be open to possibility instead of finding reasons to say we can’t do things. So join us in our challenge…what would happen if you focused on saying “yes, AND” instead of “yes, BUT” to things that appear in your life?

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter / Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein / Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 22: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Emily Chipman

“It felt so much better to give it a try then to keep suppressing what was inside of me. . . We are so capable, more capable than we even know. Be brave and just go for it.”

In our second installment of the Unpolished Journey, we have an inspiring conversation with Emily Chipman, founder of Doliray Swimwear. As a wife and mama of four young girls, Emily was looking for a creative outlet and found it in quite the unconventional place that originally felt impossible. She talks to us about how she didn’t ever think she could be capable of doing something like this until she learned to shift her mindset and began to talk about her dream as if it were her reality. Emily shares the lessons she’s learned as she navigated the unfamiliar world of manufacturing and how a combination of bravery, determination, and the willingness to be repeatedly embarrassed is how she approaches her entrepreneurial journey. We also discuss how she manages everything going on in her life to make time for what needs to get done, how she handles both good and bad days, and why she’s driven to set an example for her girls of showing them that anything is possible.

If you want to feel confident and comfortable this summer, check out the rompers and swimming suits on www.doliray.com. Unpolished listeners get a 10% discount with the code UNPOLISHED10 at checkout! And make sure to follow @dolirayswimwear on Instagram and Facebook for some refreshing real talk in your feed.

Are you interested in sharing your Unpolished Journey with us? We’d love to chat. Send an email to hello@unpolished.community to get the process started!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 21: The Struggle is Normal

We continue our discussion around being stuck in the mud and the discomfort of transitions. The struggle of the extreme highs and lows we’re experiencing is a challenge we constantly battle. We talk about how our primitive brains want to keep us safe, how we get to decide what is true is for us, and the importance of celebrating the process.

We want to spark more conversations on the reality of this process, so people have more examples of what this journey is like (and particularly the incredibly challenging early stages). So share with us: what does the entrepreneurial experience feel like for you? Shine a light on the reality of your process so we can all learn from and support each other.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community