Unpolished 28: Mom Guilt

It can be really hard to be all the things.

The idea of having it all is great—but we can’t have it all in every moment and we need to acknowledge the realities of the tradeoffs we make in our choices. Mom life is just really hard, and it’s time we talked about it.

We all feel different degrees of insecurities about being mothers, and these feelings of judgment are our projections of our own insecurities as we seek validation for the decisions we make. There are parallels between this and the early stages of an entrepreneurial journey. Once we have the gift of hindsight, things tend to magically look a lot rosier and the hard parts of these memories truly tend to fade.

Sometimes our best isn’t that awesome, but it has to be enough for that moment. There will always be hindsight, so even in those moments when it seems like too much, one day we’ll be able to reflect and see how it fits into the bigger picture.

How does Mom guilt show up in your life? We want to hear your story.

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Unpolished 27: The Emotional Rollercoaster

What makes your soul come alive? What did you love doing as a child and how does that show up in your life today?

When we start to clear away the clutter of who we think we should be and live as ourselves, there’s so much power and strength because there isn’t as much room for fear. The outcomes matter less because the feelings we’re after are felt simply by being who we are and standing in our truth.

We’re going to experience both ends of the spectrum (the high-highs and the low-lows) and we need to get comfortable knowing that neither one lasts, so it’s important to let go of trying to hold onto it or trying to resist it. It’s also important for us to feel the full range of emotions, and not only just the positive ones.

Our challenge to you this week is to feel the feelings—pick one good and one negative experience and truly feel it. Also become aware of what makes your soul alive so you can find ways to sneak more of it into your life. Let us know in the comments what this process is like for you!

And for more context, check out Episode 10: Authenticity where we originally talk about the metaphor of “the room”: http://unpolished.community/2018/02/13/unpolished-10-authenticity/  

To listen to the episode Sarah’s mentions from The Life Coach School podcast by Brooke Castillo: https://thelifecoachschool.com/189/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

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Unpolished 26: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Monica Packer

“People get caught up in not starting something because they don’t think it’s going to be successful. That’s the biggest failure of all—to not even start. Nothing is a failure if it’s leading you to something else or helping you grow.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk to fellow podcaster Monica Packer of About Progress. Monica Packer is a podcaster, writer, and recovering perfectionist.  She is a wife and mother of four young children, living in the San Francisco East Bay. Monica is passionate about empowering women to find, develop, and own their own gifts by refusing to be held back by their fears of imperfection.   

We talk about the messy and stressful process of jumping in and starting something new, what Monica learned about herself from starting a blog and then a podcast, and why it’s important to do and try things in order to discover what our gifts are.

In her work, Monica has found that everyone wants to know what their gifts are, but the purpose is the process of discovering what these gifts are because there isn’t an easy way to know what they look like. We talk about her mission to help women discover their gifts and have confidence in finding the right way to share them with the people who need them most, and acknowledge that it’s so hard to own our gifts, but we do ourselves a huge disservice but not exploring this aspect of our lives.

We also talk about the challenges of social media and the difference between being authentic vs. thinking we need to have something important to say, the struggle of untangling our self-worth from engagement numbers, and the difference between bad vs. good business decisions.

You can learn more about and connect with Monica at www.aboutprogress.com and on Facebook and Instagram at @aboutprogress. And if you haven’t checked out her About Progress podcast yet, go listen to an episode now— there are two years of inspiring conversations waiting for you!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 25: Getting Personal

This episode almost never saw the light of day—it’s a deeply personal conversation that dives into the complicated emotions that come up on the self-awareness journey. We acknowledge that part of the entrepreneurial path is digging deep into yourself and confronting parts of you that may feel uncomfortable, yet the only option to breakthrough is to simply get curious and see what you can learn. We talk about imposter syndrome, the real me vs. the not real me, what our fear is trying to teach us, and where doubt arises from. Investing in a solid foundation is where we want to focus and acknowledging the need to accept and live in gray areas is how we can move forward.

We’d love to hear from you—what’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned so far on your journey?

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 24: The Little Things Lead to the Big Things

We continue our conversation from previous episodes on the idea of “unfolding” and look at how truly surrendering to this process and noticing how all the little pieces fall into place helps take the pressure off. While this perspective is empowering, it’s certainly not our natural inclination and is a choice we have to continue to make over time by training our brain. We share specific examples from our lives as to how this is showing up for us and explore how even the small or frustrating parts of our experiences are still part of this unfolding process. If we do the work and let go of the outcomes, it’s a much more fulfilling approach.

Our challenge to you this week is to simply put something out there and be curious about what it will teach you. What’s one thing that’s inspired you or you’ve been contemplating? Go do that thing and let us know how it feels.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 21: The Struggle is Normal

We continue our discussion around being stuck in the mud and the discomfort of transitions. The struggle of the extreme highs and lows we’re experiencing is a challenge we constantly battle. We talk about how our primitive brains want to keep us safe, how we get to decide what is true is for us, and the importance of celebrating the process.

We want to spark more conversations on the reality of this process, so people have more examples of what this journey is like (and particularly the incredibly challenging early stages). So share with us: what does the entrepreneurial experience feel like for you? Shine a light on the reality of your process so we can all learn from and support each other.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 20: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Harper Spero

“There’s a lot of pressure to do things a certain way, and I’m doing my best to not let that prevent me from doing things the way I want to do it.”

In our first installment of The Unpolished Journey, we’re excited to chat with Harper Spero, a business coach and consultant from New York City. We talk about her journey from the corporate world to the entrepreneur world, her evolution as a coach, the fears she faced in building her business, and how she balances a chronic health illness with solopreneur life. Harper shares what she’s learned through taking risks, why being yourself is so hard but so important, and why getting clear on who your people are is so key to finding success.

To learn more about Harper and her business, you can check out www.harperspero.com. For our fantastic Unpolished listeners, Harper is offering 10% off any of her Breakthrough Sessions with the promo code UNPOLISHED: http://www.harperspero.com/breakthroughsessions/

Are you interested in sharing your Unpolished Journey with us? We’d love to chat. Send an email to hello@unpolished.community to get the process started!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 19: Stuck In The Mud

It’s no fun feeling like you’re stuck in the mud, but that’s the point of the entrepreneurial journey we find ourselves on. We dive deep into the muck in this episode and explore all the ways we’re experiencing this in our lives. We look at how the hard parts are connected to the good parts much like when an acorn falls from a tree and has to be buried in the mud before it can sprout new life. We also discuss our daily battle with social media, and how we can find ways to better manage our time and use it as a vehicle for our expressing our authenticity instead of becoming attached to the likes and engagement (or lack thereof!)

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 18: Joy Hangovers and Gratitude

Have you ever thought that you can be grateful for something and appreciate what it offers to your life, even if you really don’t like that thing (like taxes or a corporate job)? This nugget of wisdom comes out of a discussion around a joy hangover Stacy experienced for the first time. We talk about what this looks like in each of our lives and how it relates to:

  • The human tendency to categorize things as black and white
  • Why zebras don’t get ulcers (great book if you haven’t read it: https://www.amazon.com/Why-Zebras-Dont-Ulcers-Third/dp/0805073698)
  • The undercurrent of anxiety from being a human and processing so much information each day
  • The need to live from a conscious place as technology and the modern world we live in makes it much harder to live by instinct and default
  • The importance of paying attention to signs and listening for feedback
  • Giving the hard stuff a purpose

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 17: When the Work Doesn’t Feel Productive

What happens when working doesn’t feel like work? Is it a sign that you’re not actually being productive? Or does it mean that you’re actually accomplishing a step on the path to your larger goal(s)? In this episode we talk about:

  • How to feel productive and accomplished when you’re doing something that doesn’t feel like work
  • The idea of gamification to create milestones that make you feel progress in your business
  • How to structure and label your time to acknowledge what’s contributing to your overall goals
  • Why it’s important to ask yourself what feels right in this moment
  • The need to train your brain to get out of “should” mode
  • The need to balance doing the things that are energizing to fuel you to do the things you don’t love (like folding laundry!)
  • Getting curious about what money we’re leaving on the table by not investing
  • Training our brain to have an abundance mindset

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community