Unpolished 35: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Crystalee Beck

“We have the power to create what we want. It might take time or effort, but if we’re really committed to creating what we want and have a clear vision, we can absolutely do it.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Crystalee Beck, a mama of two cute mess-makers (with one more on the way!), writer, six-figure entrepreneur, and co-founder of The Mama Ladder International, an organization that empowers women at the intersection of motherhood and entrepreneurship. After leaving her corporate ladder job, she “created her own ladder” to fit her family in 2016. You can learn more about the programs they offer here: www.themamaladder.com and follow them on Instagram @themamaladder

We talk about how the idea for the mama ladder came to be, why the moment her son was born powerfully changed how she approached her life, and how balance and motivation are the keys to managing running a business and raising kids. So many people feel torn between a career and kids, and Crystalee shows us that you can do both in ways that are healthy and joyful by creating and building your own ladder. She also shares how we can all learn from the painful moments in our lives, and why that often turns into opportunities to do something great.

After listening to the episode, we’d love to hear from you—what does your ladder look like? What is the vision of the life you’re dreaming of, and what is one small step that you can take today that will help you get there?

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 34: Fun Facts – Vol. 1

Being vulnerable, confronting our fears, taking a leap—the entrepreneur life can get super serious at times, and we thought it was time to bring some lightheartedness to this podcast and share more about who we are on a different level. So in this episode, you’ll learn some fun facts about Sarah and Stacy including:

  • Our first jobs
  • Our spirit animals
  • Our go-to karaoke song
  • Our irrational fear
  • Our favorite TV show

Sometimes it feels like we don’t bring enough of who we are to our businesses, and this is a reminder that we’re all humans, we need connection, and we need community. So how can you take a fun fact about yourself and weave it into your business? We’d love to hear it.

Here is Stacy’s wedding cake topper mentioned in the episode:

If Sarah or Stacy is the right type of support you need, we’d be honored to help you. You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 33: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Sam Kelly

“I think of failure as a closed door. It’s not a dead end, but it helps me move into a different direction. Nothing else teaches me as quickly, so then I say bring on the closed doors!”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Sam Kelly—a family film photographer @samkelly_world based in Salt Lake City, UT and co-founder of @photonative, a large annual photography conference. With a Masters degree in Art Therapy Counseling, a self-published author, and experience teaching Stress Management at the college level, Sam loves anything and everything in which personal story, creativity, and healing intersect. Currently, Sam is a homeschooling mama of three and married to the most patient, supportive guy in the world.

We hear the story of how Photo Native came to be, why she almost decided to shut it down, and how it’s so important to approach a business from a place of finding a way to meet your people’s core needs of love and belonging.

We dive into the ideas of failure and fear and talk about how shifting our view on these can have a powerful impact on our life. Sam shares how losing all her clients was one of the best things that ever happened to her, and why not seeing that as a failure was a huge part of the entire trajectory of her career. There are so many ways to define success and making money is only one indicator, not the end all be all. Her best advice is to never stop being vulnerable— truly opening yourself up to others is the way to open doors faster than anything else.

Reframing failure as a closed door has really stuck with both us, and we encourage you to try on this mindset for the week. What would that mean if you looked at your failures as closed doors? Let us know in the comments below!

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 32: Know Your People Not Your Critics

We often spend so much energy trying to convince people of our value or make ourselves into someone who we are not. It’s a disservice to people who could benefit from what we have to offer if we don’t own our talents and gifts and simply share who we truly are. Our people will be drawn to this—we don’t need to spend time explaining ourselves to our critics, yet this is what we often do.

Getting clear about who we are and what we’re passionate about is where we need to start. Working with the right type of support during this process (whether it’s a coach or a healer or someone else), can really help yet we can sometimes write these things off for being “too expensive”. There’s always a match of someone who we can afford, and it’s always worth it to make the investment in ourselves for the transformation that we will go through from working with the right person.

We need to stop waiting for the people who we think are judging to validate us. The easier route is actually to own who you are and just put it out there. How do you “do you”? What’s one thing you can do this week to own who you truly are and stop trying to convince your critics?

If Sarah or Stacy is the right type of support you need, we’d be honored to help you. You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Here are the previous episodes we mention:

Episode 10: Authenticity, where we originally talk about the metaphor of “the room”: http://unpolished.community/2018/02/13/unpolished-10-authenticity/

Episode 25: Getting Personal, where Sarah talks about her experience with her coach and the process of reparenting: http://unpolished.community/2018/06/12/unpolished-25-getting-personal/

 

Unpolished 28: Mom Guilt

It can be really hard to be all the things.

The idea of having it all is great—but we can’t have it all in every moment and we need to acknowledge the realities of the tradeoffs we make in our choices. Mom life is just really hard, and it’s time we talked about it.

We all feel different degrees of insecurities about being mothers, and these feelings of judgment are our projections of our own insecurities as we seek validation for the decisions we make. There are parallels between this and the early stages of an entrepreneurial journey. Once we have the gift of hindsight, things tend to magically look a lot rosier and the hard parts of these memories truly tend to fade.

Sometimes our best isn’t that awesome, but it has to be enough for that moment. There will always be hindsight, so even in those moments when it seems like too much, one day we’ll be able to reflect and see how it fits into the bigger picture.

How does Mom guilt show up in your life? We want to hear your story.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 27: The Emotional Rollercoaster

What makes your soul come alive? What did you love doing as a child and how does that show up in your life today?

When we start to clear away the clutter of who we think we should be and live as ourselves, there’s so much power and strength because there isn’t as much room for fear. The outcomes matter less because the feelings we’re after are felt simply by being who we are and standing in our truth.

We’re going to experience both ends of the spectrum (the high-highs and the low-lows) and we need to get comfortable knowing that neither one lasts, so it’s important to let go of trying to hold onto it or trying to resist it. It’s also important for us to feel the full range of emotions, and not only just the positive ones.

Our challenge to you this week is to feel the feelings—pick one good and one negative experience and truly feel it. Also become aware of what makes your soul alive so you can find ways to sneak more of it into your life. Let us know in the comments what this process is like for you!

And for more context, check out Episode 10: Authenticity where we originally talk about the metaphor of “the room”: http://unpolished.community/2018/02/13/unpolished-10-authenticity/  

To listen to the episode Sarah’s mentions from The Life Coach School podcast by Brooke Castillo: https://thelifecoachschool.com/189/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 26: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Monica Packer

“People get caught up in not starting something because they don’t think it’s going to be successful. That’s the biggest failure of all—to not even start. Nothing is a failure if it’s leading you to something else or helping you grow.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk to fellow podcaster Monica Packer of About Progress. Monica Packer is a podcaster, writer, and recovering perfectionist.  She is a wife and mother of four young children, living in the San Francisco East Bay. Monica is passionate about empowering women to find, develop, and own their own gifts by refusing to be held back by their fears of imperfection.   

We talk about the messy and stressful process of jumping in and starting something new, what Monica learned about herself from starting a blog and then a podcast, and why it’s important to do and try things in order to discover what our gifts are.

In her work, Monica has found that everyone wants to know what their gifts are, but the purpose is the process of discovering what these gifts are because there isn’t an easy way to know what they look like. We talk about her mission to help women discover their gifts and have confidence in finding the right way to share them with the people who need them most, and acknowledge that it’s so hard to own our gifts, but we do ourselves a huge disservice but not exploring this aspect of our lives.

We also talk about the challenges of social media and the difference between being authentic vs. thinking we need to have something important to say, the struggle of untangling our self-worth from engagement numbers, and the difference between bad vs. good business decisions.

You can learn more about and connect with Monica at www.aboutprogress.com and on Facebook and Instagram at @aboutprogress. And if you haven’t checked out her About Progress podcast yet, go listen to an episode now— there are two years of inspiring conversations waiting for you!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 25: Getting Personal

This episode almost never saw the light of day—it’s a deeply personal conversation that dives into the complicated emotions that come up on the self-awareness journey. We acknowledge that part of the entrepreneurial path is digging deep into yourself and confronting parts of you that may feel uncomfortable, yet the only option to breakthrough is to simply get curious and see what you can learn. We talk about imposter syndrome, the real me vs. the not real me, what our fear is trying to teach us, and where doubt arises from. Investing in a solid foundation is where we want to focus and acknowledging the need to accept and live in gray areas is how we can move forward.

We’d love to hear from you—what’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned so far on your journey?

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 24: The Little Things Lead to the Big Things

We continue our conversation from previous episodes on the idea of “unfolding” and look at how truly surrendering to this process and noticing how all the little pieces fall into place helps take the pressure off. While this perspective is empowering, it’s certainly not our natural inclination and is a choice we have to continue to make over time by training our brain. We share specific examples from our lives as to how this is showing up for us and explore how even the small or frustrating parts of our experiences are still part of this unfolding process. If we do the work and let go of the outcomes, it’s a much more fulfilling approach.

Our challenge to you this week is to simply put something out there and be curious about what it will teach you. What’s one thing that’s inspired you or you’ve been contemplating? Go do that thing and let us know how it feels.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 21: The Struggle is Normal

We continue our discussion around being stuck in the mud and the discomfort of transitions. The struggle of the extreme highs and lows we’re experiencing is a challenge we constantly battle. We talk about how our primitive brains want to keep us safe, how we get to decide what is true is for us, and the importance of celebrating the process.

We want to spark more conversations on the reality of this process, so people have more examples of what this journey is like (and particularly the incredibly challenging early stages). So share with us: what does the entrepreneurial experience feel like for you? Shine a light on the reality of your process so we can all learn from and support each other.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community