Unpolished 18: Joy Hangovers and Gratitude

Have you ever thought that you can be grateful for something and appreciate what it offers to your life, even if you really don’t like that thing (like taxes or a corporate job)? This nugget of wisdom comes out of a discussion around a joy hangover Stacy experienced for the first time. We talk about what this looks like in each of our lives and how it relates to:

  • The human tendency to categorize things as black and white
  • Why zebras don’t get ulcers (great book if you haven’t read it: https://www.amazon.com/Why-Zebras-Dont-Ulcers-Third/dp/0805073698)
  • The undercurrent of anxiety from being a human and processing so much information each day
  • The need to live from a conscious place as technology and the modern world we live in makes it much harder to live by instinct and default
  • The importance of paying attention to signs and listening for feedback
  • Giving the hard stuff a purpose

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 17: When the Work Doesn’t Feel Productive

What happens when working doesn’t feel like work? Is it a sign that you’re not actually being productive? Or does it mean that you’re actually accomplishing a step on the path to your larger goal(s)? In this episode we talk about:

  • How to feel productive and accomplished when you’re doing something that doesn’t feel like work
  • The idea of gamification to create milestones that make you feel progress in your business
  • How to structure and label your time to acknowledge what’s contributing to your overall goals
  • Why it’s important to ask yourself what feels right in this moment
  • The need to train your brain to get out of “should” mode
  • The need to balance doing the things that are energizing to fuel you to do the things you don’t love (like folding laundry!)
  • Getting curious about what money we’re leaving on the table by not investing
  • Training our brain to have an abundance mindset

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 16: Getting Out of Our Own Way

Why is it that we are often our own worst enemies? It can be so hard to acknowledge our own strengths and is often why we all tend to seek validation from others. In this episode, we talk about how this applies to Sarah’s current calling to try something new in her business and how she has a choice to listen to the calling or the insecurities it triggers. We discuss how uncomfortable it can be to acknowledge and own our gifts and why this leads us to self-sabotage our efforts. We also talk about how all of our decisions are rooted in either fear or love and how our choices can be clouded by our fear of expectations not being met.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 15: Let It Unfold

Have you ever noticed how decluttering the physical space of your home can create fresh space in your life to invite in something new? Sarah shares an update on the impact of her big purge and we discuss how timing and fuel are the key ingredients to make something like this actually work. When we address what we need in each moment, our lives can feel so much different. Stacy shares her experience owning her needs on a recent business trip and how the idea of unfolding is resonating with her. We talk about the difference between letting something unfold vs. being lazy and how important it is to recognize what our sun, soil, and water are in our lives as we let things feel easy and simply wait for them to bloom as they are meant to.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 14: Fear and The Inner Critic

This week is all about the nagging, negative voice in our ears called the Inner Critic. It tends to get louder when we start stepping into something new and it likes to find sneaky ways to distract and dissuade us with fear and that not-good-enough feeling. We talk about finding ways to take the pressure off and ways to work with the fear. We also discuss how we’ve found that setting intentions and taking action is often the open door that fear enters through. We end with a helpful exercise to combat this that involves finding the learning in the worst case scenario.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 13: Decluttering

Have you ever noticed a connection between the amount of clutter in your life and the level of chaos you feel? This episode dives into the energy of clutter as we talk about the massive purge Sarah is about to take on in her life. We talk about the art of decluttering, how we hold on to ideas and things far past their usefulness, why letting go of mental clutter is so much harder, and more. Sarah offers a new perspective on how we can relate to other people triggering negative emotions and the learning opportunities found within these uncomfortable moments.

Books referenced:

Mari Kondo, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: https://konmari.com/products/books/

Tosha Silver, Outrageous Openness:  https://toshasilver.com/products/outrageous-openness

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 12: Belonging to Yourself

What does it mean to truly belong to yourself? This episode focuses on the core theme of Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown. Sarah shares a personal story of how she experienced this herself and discusses the interesting dance of sharing opinions on social media. When you can stand in your truth no matter what anyone else thinks, there’s a ripple effect of how grounded and powerful this can make you feel.

Giving yourself permission to be who you are looks different when your mind vs. your heart internalizes this. Stacy shares her challenges switching between different personas in her life and how frustrating it can be to witness people following along with cultural ideals they don’t believe in but just do it because everyone else does.

We discuss how it’s important to be conscious of how our decisions affect us—sometimes it’s not worth being in the wilderness for something. But we do have to find a way to be willing to stand alone and also setting firm boundaries for what works for us.

Braving the Wilderness Brene Brown: https://www.amazon.com/Braving-Wilderness-Quest-Belonging-Courage/dp/0812995848

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 11: The Inspiration Tribe

Have you ever had the experience of your soul nodding “heck yes!”? That feeling is what this conversation is all about. Sarah shares an update on her experience hosting a recent workshop and how she did NOT have a vulnerability hangover this time. Her experience was radically different because she felt more confident in her authenticity and was coming from a place of giving the gifts she could give instead of from the need to perform.

We talk about how shifting our mindset can take the pressure off and when looking for external validation can sometimes be a useful thing. The bulk of the conversation stems from the difference between following people who inspire us vs. people we admire and the importance of filling our lives with things that resonate with who we are and the person we want to be. For us, Brene Brown and Brooke Castillo are examples of who we have on repeat on the soundtrack of our lives. And we want to know who’s on yours!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 10: Authenticity

We talk a lot about vulnerability on this podcast, and in this episode, we explore the idea of authenticity through two different analogies we’ve both come across. Sarah shares the metaphor of how we present ourselves to the world is like a room that we get to decorate however we want. It’s scary to present the room exactly as you want it, showcasing every detail that represents you, but having the courage to be exactly who we are is where we can find deeper joy.

When we think about how this applies to building our businesses, we want the right people to be drawn to our rooms. Yet sometimes we catch ourselves feeling like we need to do things a certain way that doesn’t feel authentic. We acknowledge that we have the power to change how our room looks, and sometimes it’s important to pause and redecorate based on how we’ve personally grown and evolved.

Stacy also shares an analogy she heard at a yoga class about how we are mirrors that reflect ourselves in what we see in others. Authenticity is about being a polished mirror—we need to make sure it’s not cloudy or dirty so our true selves can shine through.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

 

Unpolished 09: The Art of Showing Up

What if we looked at every experience as an opportunity to learn something? When it comes to building our businesses, we’ve found that this approach really helps us stay open to possibilities and find even the smallest ways to move forward.

This episode starts off with Stacy sharing insights that she learned from a recent round of giving free coaching calls and how the idea of practicing confidence is more about getting out of our own way and letting it come through. We explore the idea that lessons can be learned from even the most toxic situations we find ourselves in, as well as the beauty of what hindsight can teach us.

The conversation then goes into the importance of looking for signs in our life to help us along our journey, in whatever spiritual or religious way that has meaning to you. We end the episode pondering the idea that we are all meant to be someone who truly changes the world—it just may look very different from person to person—and we look at small ways we can explore this in our daily lives. All we have to do is show up and be our authentic selves by sharing the gifts we have right in this moment.

Here is the link to the Huffington Post article Stacy mentions: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/stacy-cohen/taking-control-of-my-health-meant-taking-control-of-my-life_b_4920108.html?1394213181

And this book/TED Talk is a great place to start helping you get crystal clear on your purpose: https://startwithwhy.com/find-your-why?ref=home

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community