Unpolished 12: Belonging to Yourself

What does it mean to truly belong to yourself? This episode focuses on the core theme of Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown. Sarah shares a personal story of how she experienced this herself and discusses the interesting dance of sharing opinions on social media. When you can stand in your truth no matter what anyone else thinks, there’s a ripple effect of how grounded and powerful this can make you feel.

Giving yourself permission to be who you are looks different when your mind vs. your heart internalizes this. Stacy shares her challenges switching between different personas in her life and how frustrating it can be to witness people following along with cultural ideals they don’t believe in but just do it because everyone else does.

We discuss how it’s important to be conscious of how our decisions affect us—sometimes it’s not worth being in the wilderness for something. But we do have to find a way to be willing to stand alone and also setting firm boundaries for what works for us.

Braving the Wilderness Brene Brown: https://www.amazon.com/Braving-Wilderness-Quest-Belonging-Courage/dp/0812995848

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 11: The Inspiration Tribe

Have you ever had the experience of your soul nodding “heck yes!”? That feeling is what this conversation is all about. Sarah shares an update on her experience hosting a recent workshop and how she did NOT have a vulnerability hangover this time. Her experience was radically different because she felt more confident in her authenticity and was coming from a place of giving the gifts she could give instead of from the need to perform.

We talk about how shifting our mindset can take the pressure off and when looking for external validation can sometimes be a useful thing. The bulk of the conversation stems from the difference between following people who inspire us vs. people we admire and the importance of filling our lives with things that resonate with who we are and the person we want to be. For us, Brene Brown and Brooke Castillo are examples of who we have on repeat on the soundtrack of our lives. And we want to know who’s on yours!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 10: Authenticity

We talk a lot about vulnerability on this podcast, and in this episode, we explore the idea of authenticity through two different analogies we’ve both come across. Sarah shares the metaphor of how we present ourselves to the world is like a room that we get to decorate however we want. It’s scary to present the room exactly as you want it, showcasing every detail that represents you, but having the courage to be exactly who we are is where we can find deeper joy.

When we think about how this applies to building our businesses, we want the right people to be drawn to our rooms. Yet sometimes we catch ourselves feeling like we need to do things a certain way that doesn’t feel authentic. We acknowledge that we have the power to change how our room looks, and sometimes it’s important to pause and redecorate based on how we’ve personally grown and evolved.

Stacy also shares an analogy she heard at a yoga class about how we are mirrors that reflect ourselves in what we see in others. Authenticity is about being a polished mirror—we need to make sure it’s not cloudy or dirty so our true selves can shine through.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

 

Unpolished 09: The Art of Showing Up

What if we looked at every experience as an opportunity to learn something? When it comes to building our businesses, we’ve found that this approach really helps us stay open to possibilities and find even the smallest ways to move forward.

This episode starts off with Stacy sharing insights that she learned from a recent round of giving free coaching calls and how the idea of practicing confidence is more about getting out of our own way and letting it come through. We explore the idea that lessons can be learned from even the most toxic situations we find ourselves in, as well as the beauty of what hindsight can teach us.

The conversation then goes into the importance of looking for signs in our life to help us along our journey, in whatever spiritual or religious way that has meaning to you. We end the episode pondering the idea that we are all meant to be someone who truly changes the world—it just may look very different from person to person—and we look at small ways we can explore this in our daily lives. All we have to do is show up and be our authentic selves by sharing the gifts we have right in this moment.

Here is the link to the Huffington Post article Stacy mentions: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/stacy-cohen/taking-control-of-my-health-meant-taking-control-of-my-life_b_4920108.html?1394213181

And this book/TED Talk is a great place to start helping you get crystal clear on your purpose: https://startwithwhy.com/find-your-why?ref=home

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

 

Unpolished 08.5: Right Now Is The Destination

Progress isn’t usually a straight line – sometimes there are loops and circles, but it’s all still movement. If you drew a bunch of loops on a piece of paper, the line is still moving forward even though there’s a portion of that loop that’s moving backward. This mini-episode was a parting thoughts conversation we had after wrapping up a previous podcast recording.

We talk about the importance of knowing our triggers so that we can set the right boundaries for ourselves. We also discuss how everything works out exactly as it needs to, especially when we subscribe to the idea that the universe is always conspiring in our favor. It’s not about reaching the destination we’re heading towards—it’s about the gifts that can be found right now. In fact, right now IS the destination. We don’t need to figure it all out, we simply need to go with it and learn along the way.

Here’s a link to Sarah’s blog post she mentions: https://medium.com/@sarahbethbc/your-joy-is-not-waiting-at-your-destination-3fbb7629c0c8

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Unpolished 08: Courage Over Comfort

What happens we finally take that leap and are able to move past our fear? In this episode, Stacy talks about her experience finally doing something that she had avoided for a while, and what happened as a result. We talk about why doing the scary things our intuition is pushing us toward is so important, and how we can view this process as a game instead of a scary mountain we have to climb alone.

Being authentic, vulnerable, and telling our story – whatever that may be in the moment – is all part of the process. The key is to find ways to learn from the experiences and adjust your actions from there. We also remind each other that confidence is not about having all the answers before we do something, and how important it is that we each share our unique gifts with the world. All we need to do is share what we’ve learned on our own paths so far.

We mention how Brene Brown’s work (especially this idea of courage over comfort from her book Rising Strong), and Amy Cuddy’s book Presence is really inspiring and helpful in fighting that fear that comes up for both of us. Both women have TED Talks worth watching:


After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

 

Unpolished 07: The Vulnerability Hangover

Have you ever woken up the day after you’ve done something vulnerable and thought to yourself – oh my goodness, what did I do?! Well, that is what Brene Brown calls a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into this topic and talk about our recent experiences and what we do to recover.
 
We examine the different roadblocks we come up against as we try to take steps forward on our entrepreneurial journeys—fear, our inner critics, the seeking of validation—and we share different ways we can support ourselves to feel more secure with our progress. We can learn from even the smallest actions we take. The vulnerability hangover can be a sign that we’ve taken a big step forward. The key is to continue to ask ourselves: what did we learn from this?

Here’s a great article on the vulnerability hangover: https://www.wsj.com/articles/you-took-an-emotional-risk-now-what-1478536377

And here’s a blog post on how to identify your Inner Critic: http://www.taramohr.com/2012/01/7-ways-to-recognize-your-inner-critic/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram.  We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Unpolished 06: A Productive Waste of Time

We all find ourselves saying “I don’t have enough time”, but is that really true? When we really think about it, we actually end up wasting a lot of time—from mindlessly looking at our phones, to being uncomfortable with doing nothing, or even getting caught up in thoughts that aren’t productive. In this episode, we talk through ways of minimizing the anxiety around wasting time and commit to testing out small ways in which we can each be more productive and add more balance to our lives.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

 

Unpolished 05: Confronting Fear

This episode focuses on what it’s like to put ourselves out there and the scary vulnerability that comes with testing and learning. We each share a personal story around the experience of offering our services for free in the spirit of moving our businesses forward. We also talk about how judging others is often a reflection of our own insecurities, how failure is just another way of learning, and the importance of building in recovery time once we take vulnerable actions.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter: http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein: https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Unpolished 04: Being Okay With Being Real

What started as a conversation around professional family photographs turned into a conversation around vulnerability, authenticity and so much more. In this episode, we discuss the downfall of the word should, the unnecessary pressure we put on ourselves by trying to compete with the perfect social media photo, and the value that each and every one of us provides by putting our own unique filter on the different ideas and experiences we each come across. We all need to find our own way of being comfortable with being exactly who we are.

Fun fact: The photo of Sarah in the sidebar is from the photoshoot we spoke about.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

https://www.stacyweinstein.com/