Unpolished Rewind 07: The Vulnerability Hangover

Going back a whole year with this week’s rewind! 
Have you ever woken up the day after you’ve done something vulnerable and thought to yourself – oh my goodness, what did I do?! Well, that is what Brene Brown calls a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into this topic and talk about our recent experiences and what we do to recover.
 
We examine the different roadblocks we come up against as we try to take steps forward on our entrepreneurial journeys—fear, our inner critics, the seeking of validation—and we share different ways we can support ourselves to feel more secure with our progress. We can learn from even the smallest actions we take. The vulnerability hangover can be a sign that we’ve taken a big step forward. The key is to continue to ask ourselves: what did we learn from this?

Here’s a great article on the vulnerability hangover: https://www.wsj.com/articles/you-took-an-emotional-risk-now-what-1478536377

And here’s a blog post on how to identify your Inner Critic: http://www.taramohr.com/2012/01/7-ways-to-recognize-your-inner-critic/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

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Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 41: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Tara Mohr

“You need to be bolder than you think you need to be.”

We are so excited and honored to be sharing this Unpolished Journey interview! In this latest installment, we talk with someone who has had a huge impact on both of our lives: Tara Sophia Mohr. Tara is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being, and an author, educator and certified coach. Tara is the author of Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead, published by Penguin Random House, and named a Best Book of the Year by Apple’s iBooks. She is the creator of the pioneering Playing Big leadership program for women, and Playing Big Facilitators Training for coaches, mentors and managers who support women in their personal and professional growth. Her work has been featured on The Today Show and in publications ranging from The New York Times to goop to Harvard Business Review. More than 45,000 women from around the world follow Tara’s writing and wisdom. She lives in San Francisco and loves dance, art, and long walks with her family.

This conversation is packed with wisdom you don’t want to miss. We talk with Tara about:

  • How and pain, self-doubt, and curiosity led to the creation of Playing Big
  • The early years of her entrepreneurial journey and how she dealt with the uncertainty and frustrations she experienced
  • The true challenge of balancing career and motherhood (and it’s not time!)
  • Her personal practices for working with her inner critic
  • The surprising truth about realizing your dream
  • And more!

Playing Big is defined as being more loyal to your dreams than your fears. And this conversation will absolutely inspire you to learn more about how to commit to that in your own life. We’d love to hear what resonated most with you from this episode. What is your top takeaway from this conversation?

To learn more about Tara’s work, you can check out: https://www.taramohr.com/ And find her on social media:

Facebook: facebook.com/tarasmohr
LinkedIn: tarasmohr
Instagram: @tarasophiamohr

To hear the story of how Tara was the reason behind how this podcast was created in the first place, check out our very first (and very unpolished) episode.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

 

Unpolished 39: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Dana Malstaff (Part 2)

Success does not find you, you find success.”

Have you listened to last week’s episode yet? Make sure to catch part one of this conversation before diving into today’s episode! In part two, we continue our conversation with Dana Malstaff—the CEO and founder of Boss Mom. Dana is a mother, author, business strategist, podcaster, blind spot reducer, and movement maker. She is the author of Boss Mom: The Ultimate Guide to Raising a Business & Nurturing Your Family Like a Pro. Dana has over 20k students in various courses and community that is over 30K strong. With over 10 years of experience in content creation, marketing, sales, community building, and business strategy, Dana grew the Boss Mom brand into a six-figure business in less than a year. Her Boss Mom Movement is all about losing the guilt when it comes to raising babies and businesses at the same time, and believes that pursuing our passions and building our dreams while including our children in the process, is the best way to build thriving businesses and families.

There are even more wise gems to be found in the second half of our conversation. Listen to this episode to learn:

  • The importance of following the breadcrumbs
  • Why you’re going to overbook yourself and overpromise
  • What happens when you chase the wrong problem, and why it’s so important to talk to someone when you’re going through any kind of transition
  • The need to celebrate what you’re good at, hire people for what you’re not, and find where you waste time
  • Why starting a business isn’t just about finding your passion
  • And more!

Let us know what resonated most with you from this episode. What’s one thing you can tweak about your approach to your business? You can learn more about Dana by visiting www.boss-mom.com

Find out if Dana has a program that is right for you. (Trust us she does)

Raising Your Business

Boss Mom Academy (Join and hang out with Sarah!)

 

 

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Photo Credit: CJ Thomas Photography

 

Unpolished Rewind 8: Courage Over Comfort

It’s time to rewind to one of our oldies but goodies. Have you listened to this episode yet? 

What happens we finally take that leap and are able to move past our fear? In this episode, Stacy talks about her experience finally doing something that she had avoided for a while, and what happened as a result. We talk about why doing the scary things our intuition is pushing us toward is so important, and how we can view this process as a game instead of a scary mountain we have to climb alone.

Being authentic, vulnerable, and telling our story – whatever that may be in the moment – is all part of the process. The key is to find ways to learn from the experiences and adjust your actions from there. We also remind each other that confidence is not about having all the answers before we do something, and how important it is that we each share our unique gifts with the world. All we need to do is share what we’ve learned on our own paths so far.

We mention how Brene Brown’s work (especially this idea of courage over comfort from her book Rising Strong), and Amy Cuddy’s book Presence is really inspiring and helpful in fighting that fear that comes up for both of us. Both women have TED Talks worth watching:

Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk
Brene Brown’s TED Talk

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 35: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Crystalee Beck

“We have the power to create what we want. It might take time or effort, but if we’re really committed to creating what we want and have a clear vision, we can absolutely do it.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Crystalee Beck, a mama of two cute mess-makers (with one more on the way!), writer, six-figure entrepreneur, and co-founder of The Mama Ladder International, an organization that empowers women at the intersection of motherhood and entrepreneurship. After leaving her corporate ladder job, she “created her own ladder” to fit her family in 2016. You can learn more about the programs they offer here: www.themamaladder.com and follow them on Instagram @themamaladder

We talk about how the idea for the mama ladder came to be, why the moment her son was born powerfully changed how she approached her life, and how balance and motivation are the keys to managing running a business and raising kids. So many people feel torn between a career and kids, and Crystalee shows us that you can do both in ways that are healthy and joyful by creating and building your own ladder. She also shares how we can all learn from the painful moments in our lives, and why that often turns into opportunities to do something great.

After listening to the episode, we’d love to hear from you—what does your ladder look like? What is the vision of the life you’re dreaming of, and what is one small step that you can take today that will help you get there?

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 33: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Sam Kelly

“I think of failure as a closed door. It’s not a dead end, but it helps me move into a different direction. Nothing else teaches me as quickly, so then I say bring on the closed doors!”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Sam Kelly—a family film photographer @samkelly_world based in Salt Lake City, UT and co-founder of @photonative, a large annual photography conference. With a Masters degree in Art Therapy Counseling, a self-published author, and experience teaching Stress Management at the college level, Sam loves anything and everything in which personal story, creativity, and healing intersect. Currently, Sam is a homeschooling mama of three and married to the most patient, supportive guy in the world.

We hear the story of how Photo Native came to be, why she almost decided to shut it down, and how it’s so important to approach a business from a place of finding a way to meet your people’s core needs of love and belonging.

We dive into the ideas of failure and fear and talk about how shifting our view on these can have a powerful impact on our life. Sam shares how losing all her clients was one of the best things that ever happened to her, and why not seeing that as a failure was a huge part of the entire trajectory of her career. There are so many ways to define success and making money is only one indicator, not the end all be all. Her best advice is to never stop being vulnerable— truly opening yourself up to others is the way to open doors faster than anything else.

Reframing failure as a closed door has really stuck with both us, and we encourage you to try on this mindset for the week. What would that mean if you looked at your failures as closed doors? Let us know in the comments below!

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 27: The Emotional Rollercoaster

What makes your soul come alive? What did you love doing as a child and how does that show up in your life today?

When we start to clear away the clutter of who we think we should be and live as ourselves, there’s so much power and strength because there isn’t as much room for fear. The outcomes matter less because the feelings we’re after are felt simply by being who we are and standing in our truth.

We’re going to experience both ends of the spectrum (the high-highs and the low-lows) and we need to get comfortable knowing that neither one lasts, so it’s important to let go of trying to hold onto it or trying to resist it. It’s also important for us to feel the full range of emotions, and not only just the positive ones.

Our challenge to you this week is to feel the feelings—pick one good and one negative experience and truly feel it. Also become aware of what makes your soul alive so you can find ways to sneak more of it into your life. Let us know in the comments what this process is like for you!

And for more context, check out Episode 10: Authenticity where we originally talk about the metaphor of “the room”: http://unpolished.community/2018/02/13/unpolished-10-authenticity/  

To listen to the episode Sarah’s mentions from The Life Coach School podcast by Brooke Castillo: https://thelifecoachschool.com/189/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 22: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Emily Chipman

“It felt so much better to give it a try then to keep suppressing what was inside of me. . . We are so capable, more capable than we even know. Be brave and just go for it.”

In our second installment of the Unpolished Journey, we have an inspiring conversation with Emily Chipman, founder of Doliray Swimwear. As a wife and mama of four young girls, Emily was looking for a creative outlet and found it in quite the unconventional place that originally felt impossible. She talks to us about how she didn’t ever think she could be capable of doing something like this until she learned to shift her mindset and began to talk about her dream as if it were her reality. Emily shares the lessons she’s learned as she navigated the unfamiliar world of manufacturing and how a combination of bravery, determination, and the willingness to be repeatedly embarrassed is how she approaches her entrepreneurial journey. We also discuss how she manages everything going on in her life to make time for what needs to get done, how she handles both good and bad days, and why she’s driven to set an example for her girls of showing them that anything is possible.

If you want to feel confident and comfortable this summer, check out the rompers and swimming suits on www.doliray.com. Unpolished listeners get a 10% discount with the code UNPOLISHED10 at checkout! And make sure to follow @dolirayswimwear on Instagram and Facebook for some refreshing real talk in your feed.

Are you interested in sharing your Unpolished Journey with us? We’d love to chat. Send an email to hello@unpolished.community to get the process started!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 12: Belonging to Yourself

What does it mean to truly belong to yourself? This episode focuses on the core theme of Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown. Sarah shares a personal story of how she experienced this herself and discusses the interesting dance of sharing opinions on social media. When you can stand in your truth no matter what anyone else thinks, there’s a ripple effect of how grounded and powerful this can make you feel.

Giving yourself permission to be who you are looks different when your mind vs. your heart internalizes this. Stacy shares her challenges switching between different personas in her life and how frustrating it can be to witness people following along with cultural ideals they don’t believe in but just do it because everyone else does.

We discuss how it’s important to be conscious of how our decisions affect us—sometimes it’s not worth being in the wilderness for something. But we do have to find a way to be willing to stand alone and also setting firm boundaries for what works for us.

Braving the Wilderness Brene Brown: https://www.amazon.com/Braving-Wilderness-Quest-Belonging-Courage/dp/0812995848

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community