Unpolished 36: Wait For It

It’s important to take a moment to celebrate the wins when they happen, regardless of their size. The entrepreneur journey never really looks like what we imagine, and it’s important to remember that it truly is a process. All we can do is take action on whatever is calling us and simply see what happens. When you plant a lot of seeds and take steps to water them, whatever that may look like, you’ll eventually see which seeds are meant to bloom and learn from the ones that aren’t blooming.

By focusing on building trust and authentically sharing the gifts we have to give, everything will somehow come together in the way it is meant to, because there are people out there who need what we have to offer. If we’re honest with ourselves about what works for us and what doesn’t, especially around setting goals, we’ll more easily build the confidence we need to continue the momentum.

It’s also important to be mindful of falling into the trap of doing things just because you think you should be doing them and knowing when something doesn’t feel right. Saying yes to too many shoulds drains our energy and resources and we need to be aware of this so we stop giving power to the “shoulds”. What would happen if we said no? Instead, we can replace “should” with “could” or “want”. What would that look like in your life? Share with us how you’re going to rethink one “should” of yours this week — Why should you be doing it? Is that true? And what could you or want to do instead?

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You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

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Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 35: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Crystalee Beck

“We have the power to create what we want. It might take time or effort, but if we’re really committed to creating what we want and have a clear vision, we can absolutely do it.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Crystalee Beck, a mama of two cute mess-makers (with one more on the way!), writer, six-figure entrepreneur, and co-founder of The Mama Ladder International, an organization that empowers women at the intersection of motherhood and entrepreneurship. After leaving her corporate ladder job, she “created her own ladder” to fit her family in 2016. You can learn more about the programs they offer here: www.themamaladder.com and follow them on Instagram @themamaladder

We talk about how the idea for the mama ladder came to be, why the moment her son was born powerfully changed how she approached her life, and how balance and motivation are the keys to managing running a business and raising kids. So many people feel torn between a career and kids, and Crystalee shows us that you can do both in ways that are healthy and joyful by creating and building your own ladder. She also shares how we can all learn from the painful moments in our lives, and why that often turns into opportunities to do something great.

After listening to the episode, we’d love to hear from you—what does your ladder look like? What is the vision of the life you’re dreaming of, and what is one small step that you can take today that will help you get there?

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 33: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Sam Kelly

“I think of failure as a closed door. It’s not a dead end, but it helps me move into a different direction. Nothing else teaches me as quickly, so then I say bring on the closed doors!”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Sam Kelly—a family film photographer @samkelly_world based in Salt Lake City, UT and co-founder of @photonative, a large annual photography conference. With a Masters degree in Art Therapy Counseling, a self-published author, and experience teaching Stress Management at the college level, Sam loves anything and everything in which personal story, creativity, and healing intersect. Currently, Sam is a homeschooling mama of three and married to the most patient, supportive guy in the world.

We hear the story of how Photo Native came to be, why she almost decided to shut it down, and how it’s so important to approach a business from a place of finding a way to meet your people’s core needs of love and belonging.

We dive into the ideas of failure and fear and talk about how shifting our view on these can have a powerful impact on our life. Sam shares how losing all her clients was one of the best things that ever happened to her, and why not seeing that as a failure was a huge part of the entire trajectory of her career. There are so many ways to define success and making money is only one indicator, not the end all be all. Her best advice is to never stop being vulnerable— truly opening yourself up to others is the way to open doors faster than anything else.

Reframing failure as a closed door has really stuck with both us, and we encourage you to try on this mindset for the week. What would that mean if you looked at your failures as closed doors? Let us know in the comments below!

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 31: Confronting Our Privilege/Part 2

Continuing the conversation we started last week, this episode looks at how our privilege shows up in the context of trying to build businesses in the wellness and coaching worlds.

We start by discussing themes from @andrearanaej’s The Color of Wellness class including the lack of diversity we see, elitism, the difference between survival and having/wanting wellness, and the difference between equality and equity.

We talk about how blame arises when we feel shame or guilt about privilege, and how important it is for us to instead confront the discomfort and do the work in order to use our privilege for good in the world.

We know this is a complex conversation, and we want to keep this dialogue open so we can all learn from each other. The first place to start is by examining our own contribution to the larger problem.

We would love to hear your voice – please reach out and share your experience with us and let us know if you’d like to join an upcoming episode to continue the conversation.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 26: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Monica Packer

“People get caught up in not starting something because they don’t think it’s going to be successful. That’s the biggest failure of all—to not even start. Nothing is a failure if it’s leading you to something else or helping you grow.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk to fellow podcaster Monica Packer of About Progress. Monica Packer is a podcaster, writer, and recovering perfectionist.  She is a wife and mother of four young children, living in the San Francisco East Bay. Monica is passionate about empowering women to find, develop, and own their own gifts by refusing to be held back by their fears of imperfection.   

We talk about the messy and stressful process of jumping in and starting something new, what Monica learned about herself from starting a blog and then a podcast, and why it’s important to do and try things in order to discover what our gifts are.

In her work, Monica has found that everyone wants to know what their gifts are, but the purpose is the process of discovering what these gifts are because there isn’t an easy way to know what they look like. We talk about her mission to help women discover their gifts and have confidence in finding the right way to share them with the people who need them most, and acknowledge that it’s so hard to own our gifts, but we do ourselves a huge disservice but not exploring this aspect of our lives.

We also talk about the challenges of social media and the difference between being authentic vs. thinking we need to have something important to say, the struggle of untangling our self-worth from engagement numbers, and the difference between bad vs. good business decisions.

You can learn more about and connect with Monica at www.aboutprogress.com and on Facebook and Instagram at @aboutprogress. And if you haven’t checked out her About Progress podcast yet, go listen to an episode now— there are two years of inspiring conversations waiting for you!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 22: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Emily Chipman

“It felt so much better to give it a try then to keep suppressing what was inside of me. . . We are so capable, more capable than we even know. Be brave and just go for it.”

In our second installment of the Unpolished Journey, we have an inspiring conversation with Emily Chipman, founder of Doliray Swimwear. As a wife and mama of four young girls, Emily was looking for a creative outlet and found it in quite the unconventional place that originally felt impossible. She talks to us about how she didn’t ever think she could be capable of doing something like this until she learned to shift her mindset and began to talk about her dream as if it were her reality. Emily shares the lessons she’s learned as she navigated the unfamiliar world of manufacturing and how a combination of bravery, determination, and the willingness to be repeatedly embarrassed is how she approaches her entrepreneurial journey. We also discuss how she manages everything going on in her life to make time for what needs to get done, how she handles both good and bad days, and why she’s driven to set an example for her girls of showing them that anything is possible.

If you want to feel confident and comfortable this summer, check out the rompers and swimming suits on www.doliray.com. Unpolished listeners get a 10% discount with the code UNPOLISHED10 at checkout! And make sure to follow @dolirayswimwear on Instagram and Facebook for some refreshing real talk in your feed.

Are you interested in sharing your Unpolished Journey with us? We’d love to chat. Send an email to hello@unpolished.community to get the process started!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 21: The Struggle is Normal

We continue our discussion around being stuck in the mud and the discomfort of transitions. The struggle of the extreme highs and lows we’re experiencing is a challenge we constantly battle. We talk about how our primitive brains want to keep us safe, how we get to decide what is true is for us, and the importance of celebrating the process.

We want to spark more conversations on the reality of this process, so people have more examples of what this journey is like (and particularly the incredibly challenging early stages). So share with us: what does the entrepreneurial experience feel like for you? Shine a light on the reality of your process so we can all learn from and support each other.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 08: Courage Over Comfort

What happens we finally take that leap and are able to move past our fear? In this episode, Stacy talks about her experience finally doing something that she had avoided for a while, and what happened as a result. We talk about why doing the scary things our intuition is pushing us toward is so important, and how we can view this process as a game instead of a scary mountain we have to climb alone.

Being authentic, vulnerable, and telling our story – whatever that may be in the moment – is all part of the process. The key is to find ways to learn from the experiences and adjust your actions from there. We also remind each other that confidence is not about having all the answers before we do something, and how important it is that we each share our unique gifts with the world. All we need to do is share what we’ve learned on our own paths so far.

We mention how Brene Brown’s work (especially this idea of courage over comfort from her book Rising Strong), and Amy Cuddy’s book Presence is really inspiring and helpful in fighting that fear that comes up for both of us. Both women have TED Talks worth watching:


After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/