Unpolished 31: Confronting Our Privilege/Part 2

Continuing the conversation we started last week, this episode looks at how our privilege shows up in the context of trying to build businesses in the wellness and coaching worlds.

We start by discussing themes from @andrearanaej’s The Color of Wellness class including the lack of diversity we see, elitism, the difference between survival and having/wanting wellness, and the difference between equality and equity.

We talk about how blame arises when we feel shame or guilt about privilege, and how important it is for us to instead confront the discomfort and do the work in order to use our privilege for good in the world.

We know this is a complex conversation, and we want to keep this dialogue open so we can all learn from each other. The first place to start is by examining our own contribution to the larger problem.

We would love to hear your voice – please reach out and share your experience with us and let us know if you’d like to join an upcoming episode to continue the conversation.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 30: Confronting Our Privilege

This is the start of a much bigger conversation. This episode is our first step in recognizing the privilege we both are afforded, how that shows up in our lives, and what we can do to start to process it. The most powerful place for us to start is self-awareness. We can’t take action until we recognize in ourselves our own biases and privileges and see how we are contributing (even unconsciously) to the problem.

The world changes when we change. We must do the uncomfortable work, to be honest with ourselves about what this truly looks like for each of us. Our guilt and shame are not productive and are certainly not going to help anyone.

We often don’t understand the influence we have, so it’s important to do the work and use our voice to speak in support of others who may not have that same privilege. So this is the start of our commitment to dive deeper into this, and we are sharing this conversation in the hopes that it will spark the same within you. Discomfort is part of the process, and it’s not a reason to turn away—it’s a sign to lean in and do the work.

This is your reminder to pause and reflect on what’s important in your life—where can you do better and help make the world a better place?

Here are the resources we mention in this episode:

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 24: The Little Things Lead to the Big Things

We continue our conversation from previous episodes on the idea of “unfolding” and look at how truly surrendering to this process and noticing how all the little pieces fall into place helps take the pressure off. While this perspective is empowering, it’s certainly not our natural inclination and is a choice we have to continue to make over time by training our brain. We share specific examples from our lives as to how this is showing up for us and explore how even the small or frustrating parts of our experiences are still part of this unfolding process. If we do the work and let go of the outcomes, it’s a much more fulfilling approach.

Our challenge to you this week is to simply put something out there and be curious about what it will teach you. What’s one thing that’s inspired you or you’ve been contemplating? Go do that thing and let us know how it feels.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 19: Stuck In The Mud

It’s no fun feeling like you’re stuck in the mud, but that’s the point of the entrepreneurial journey we find ourselves on. We dive deep into the muck in this episode and explore all the ways we’re experiencing this in our lives. We look at how the hard parts are connected to the good parts much like when an acorn falls from a tree and has to be buried in the mud before it can sprout new life. We also discuss our daily battle with social media, and how we can find ways to better manage our time and use it as a vehicle for our expressing our authenticity instead of becoming attached to the likes and engagement (or lack thereof!)

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 14: Fear and The Inner Critic

This week is all about the nagging, negative voice in our ears called the Inner Critic. It tends to get louder when we start stepping into something new and it likes to find sneaky ways to distract and dissuade us with fear and that not-good-enough feeling. We talk about finding ways to take the pressure off and ways to work with the fear. We also discuss how we’ve found that setting intentions and taking action is often the open door that fear enters through. We end with a helpful exercise to combat this that involves finding the learning in the worst case scenario.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 07: The Vulnerability Hangover

Have you ever woken up the day after you’ve done something vulnerable and thought to yourself – oh my goodness, what did I do?! Well, that is what Brene Brown calls a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into this topic and talk about our recent experiences and what we do to recover.
 
We examine the different roadblocks we come up against as we try to take steps forward on our entrepreneurial journeys—fear, our inner critics, the seeking of validation—and we share different ways we can support ourselves to feel more secure with our progress. We can learn from even the smallest actions we take. The vulnerability hangover can be a sign that we’ve taken a big step forward. The key is to continue to ask ourselves: what did we learn from this?

Here’s a great article on the vulnerability hangover: https://www.wsj.com/articles/you-took-an-emotional-risk-now-what-1478536377

And here’s a blog post on how to identify your Inner Critic: http://www.taramohr.com/2012/01/7-ways-to-recognize-your-inner-critic/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram.  We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter/ Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Unpolished 05: Confronting Fear

This episode focuses on what it’s like to put ourselves out there and the scary vulnerability that comes with testing and learning. We each share a personal story around the experience of offering our services for free in the spirit of moving our businesses forward. We also talk about how judging others is often a reflection of our own insecurities, how failure is just another way of learning, and the importance of building in recovery time once we take vulnerable actions.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter: http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein: https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Unpolished 02: Crankitude

Crankitude. What is this yucky feeling that sometimes pops up and throws a monkey wrench in your day? What does it mean when your soul is out of alignment with some aspect of your life? This episode focuses on what it feels like to be stuck and explores different ways of looking at and learning from our pain.

Here’s the blog post from Tara Mohr that Stacy mentions sparked some insights for her: http://www.taramohr.com/2017/11/pain-of-the-soul/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Unpolished 01: Resistance is Futile

What happens when we allow ourselves to just feel the feelings? It’s scary, but an important way to move through some tough emotions. This episode starts off by examining one of our favorite quotes: “Pain = Struggle x Resistance” and later comes back to the idea of clean pain vs. dirty pain and how pain can actually be used as a path to learning and growth. We also talk about how we talk to ourselves is so different than how we talk to our friends—and the need to find more compassion on the road to show up as the best version of ourselves, no matter what that actually looks like.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

https://www.stacyweinstein.com/