Unpolished Rewind 07: The Vulnerability Hangover

Going back a whole year with this week’s rewind! 
Have you ever woken up the day after you’ve done something vulnerable and thought to yourself – oh my goodness, what did I do?! Well, that is what Brene Brown calls a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into this topic and talk about our recent experiences and what we do to recover.
 
We examine the different roadblocks we come up against as we try to take steps forward on our entrepreneurial journeys—fear, our inner critics, the seeking of validation—and we share different ways we can support ourselves to feel more secure with our progress. We can learn from even the smallest actions we take. The vulnerability hangover can be a sign that we’ve taken a big step forward. The key is to continue to ask ourselves: what did we learn from this?

Here’s a great article on the vulnerability hangover: https://www.wsj.com/articles/you-took-an-emotional-risk-now-what-1478536377

And here’s a blog post on how to identify your Inner Critic: http://www.taramohr.com/2012/01/7-ways-to-recognize-your-inner-critic/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 41: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Tara Mohr

“You need to be bolder than you think you need to be.”

We are so excited and honored to be sharing this Unpolished Journey interview! In this latest installment, we talk with someone who has had a huge impact on both of our lives: Tara Sophia Mohr. Tara is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being, and an author, educator and certified coach. Tara is the author of Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead, published by Penguin Random House, and named a Best Book of the Year by Apple’s iBooks. She is the creator of the pioneering Playing Big leadership program for women, and Playing Big Facilitators Training for coaches, mentors and managers who support women in their personal and professional growth. Her work has been featured on The Today Show and in publications ranging from The New York Times to goop to Harvard Business Review. More than 45,000 women from around the world follow Tara’s writing and wisdom. She lives in San Francisco and loves dance, art, and long walks with her family.

This conversation is packed with wisdom you don’t want to miss. We talk with Tara about:

  • How and pain, self-doubt, and curiosity led to the creation of Playing Big
  • The early years of her entrepreneurial journey and how she dealt with the uncertainty and frustrations she experienced
  • The true challenge of balancing career and motherhood (and it’s not time!)
  • Her personal practices for working with her inner critic
  • The surprising truth about realizing your dream
  • And more!

Playing Big is defined as being more loyal to your dreams than your fears. And this conversation will absolutely inspire you to learn more about how to commit to that in your own life. We’d love to hear what resonated most with you from this episode. What is your top takeaway from this conversation?

To learn more about Tara’s work, you can check out: https://www.taramohr.com/ And find her on social media:

Facebook: facebook.com/tarasmohr
LinkedIn: tarasmohr
Instagram: @tarasophiamohr

To hear the story of how Tara was the reason behind how this podcast was created in the first place, check out our very first (and very unpolished) episode.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

 

Unpolished 32: Know Your People Not Your Critics

We often spend so much energy trying to convince people of our value or make ourselves into someone who we are not. It’s a disservice to people who could benefit from what we have to offer if we don’t own our talents and gifts and simply share who we truly are. Our people will be drawn to this—we don’t need to spend time explaining ourselves to our critics, yet this is what we often do.

Getting clear about who we are and what we’re passionate about is where we need to start. Working with the right type of support during this process (whether it’s a coach or a healer or someone else), can really help yet we can sometimes write these things off for being “too expensive”. There’s always a match of someone who we can afford, and it’s always worth it to make the investment in ourselves for the transformation that we will go through from working with the right person.

We need to stop waiting for the people who we think are judging to validate us. The easier route is actually to own who you are and just put it out there. How do you “do you”? What’s one thing you can do this week to own who you truly are and stop trying to convince your critics?

If Sarah or Stacy is the right type of support you need, we’d be honored to help you. You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Here are the previous episodes we mention:

Episode 10: Authenticity, where we originally talk about the metaphor of “the room”: http://unpolished.community/2018/02/13/unpolished-10-authenticity/

Episode 25: Getting Personal, where Sarah talks about her experience with her coach and the process of reparenting: http://unpolished.community/2018/06/12/unpolished-25-getting-personal/

 

Unpolished 19: Stuck In The Mud

It’s no fun feeling like you’re stuck in the mud, but that’s the point of the entrepreneurial journey we find ourselves on. We dive deep into the muck in this episode and explore all the ways we’re experiencing this in our lives. We look at how the hard parts are connected to the good parts much like when an acorn falls from a tree and has to be buried in the mud before it can sprout new life. We also discuss our daily battle with social media, and how we can find ways to better manage our time and use it as a vehicle for our expressing our authenticity instead of becoming attached to the likes and engagement (or lack thereof!)

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 14: Fear and The Inner Critic

This week is all about the nagging, negative voice in our ears called the Inner Critic. It tends to get louder when we start stepping into something new and it likes to find sneaky ways to distract and dissuade us with fear and that not-good-enough feeling. We talk about finding ways to take the pressure off and ways to work with the fear. We also discuss how we’ve found that setting intentions and taking action is often the open door that fear enters through. We end with a helpful exercise to combat this that involves finding the learning in the worst case scenario.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter Candelera Coaching http://www.candeleracoaching.com/

Stacy Weinstein/ Hello Healing https://www.stacyweinstein.com/

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community