Unpolished Rewind 07: The Vulnerability Hangover

Going back a whole year with this week’s rewind! 
Have you ever woken up the day after you’ve done something vulnerable and thought to yourself – oh my goodness, what did I do?! Well, that is what Brene Brown calls a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into this topic and talk about our recent experiences and what we do to recover.
 
We examine the different roadblocks we come up against as we try to take steps forward on our entrepreneurial journeys—fear, our inner critics, the seeking of validation—and we share different ways we can support ourselves to feel more secure with our progress. We can learn from even the smallest actions we take. The vulnerability hangover can be a sign that we’ve taken a big step forward. The key is to continue to ask ourselves: what did we learn from this?

Here’s a great article on the vulnerability hangover: https://www.wsj.com/articles/you-took-an-emotional-risk-now-what-1478536377

And here’s a blog post on how to identify your Inner Critic: http://www.taramohr.com/2012/01/7-ways-to-recognize-your-inner-critic/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

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Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 42: We Get to Choose

There is duality present within every situation—joy and pain, dark and light—and we often forget that we have the power to choose what we see.

Our thoughts create our feelings, not the other way around. When we can learn to focus and choose how we are thinking about things and how we are seeing the world, our feelings then change.

We also talk about the concept of seasons in our lives, how comparison is our default setting, and the need to give ourselves permission to feel the feelings. Happiness is more complicated than a choice. It’s the decision to be happy in the series of tiny choices we make every day.

We’d love to hear from you—how are you choosing happiness today?

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

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Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 41: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Tara Mohr

“You need to be bolder than you think you need to be.”

We are so excited and honored to be sharing this Unpolished Journey interview! In this latest installment, we talk with someone who has had a huge impact on both of our lives: Tara Sophia Mohr. Tara is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being, and an author, educator and certified coach. Tara is the author of Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead, published by Penguin Random House, and named a Best Book of the Year by Apple’s iBooks. She is the creator of the pioneering Playing Big leadership program for women, and Playing Big Facilitators Training for coaches, mentors and managers who support women in their personal and professional growth. Her work has been featured on The Today Show and in publications ranging from The New York Times to goop to Harvard Business Review. More than 45,000 women from around the world follow Tara’s writing and wisdom. She lives in San Francisco and loves dance, art, and long walks with her family.

This conversation is packed with wisdom you don’t want to miss. We talk with Tara about:

  • How and pain, self-doubt, and curiosity led to the creation of Playing Big
  • The early years of her entrepreneurial journey and how she dealt with the uncertainty and frustrations she experienced
  • The true challenge of balancing career and motherhood (and it’s not time!)
  • Her personal practices for working with her inner critic
  • The surprising truth about realizing your dream
  • And more!

Playing Big is defined as being more loyal to your dreams than your fears. And this conversation will absolutely inspire you to learn more about how to commit to that in your own life. We’d love to hear what resonated most with you from this episode. What is your top takeaway from this conversation?

To learn more about Tara’s work, you can check out: https://www.taramohr.com/ And find her on social media:

Facebook: facebook.com/tarasmohr
LinkedIn: tarasmohr
Instagram: @tarasophiamohr

To hear the story of how Tara was the reason behind how this podcast was created in the first place, check out our very first (and very unpolished) episode.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

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Unpolished 40: Finding Alignment

How we can we ever be successful if we never own what we’re good at? In this episode, we dive into the idea of alignment and how that shows up in a work environment. We talk about:  

  • The difference between feeling important at work and doing important work
  • Why it’s so important to truly know yourself and your strengths
  • How alignment is the key to living a fulfilled life

Our gifts and talents are unique to us and might not fit inside the “typical rulebook”, but we don’t always have to listen to the experts. When we put energy into things that are rewarding, we often find fulfillment in places we least expect. To support our journeys, we’ve found these three things to be the most important: 1) know yourself, 2) hire a coach, 3) find your people.

We’d love to know—how will you find better alignment this week? What’s one decision you can make differently by acknowledging what truly makes you happy and aligns with your strengths?

Here are the resources mentioned to help you know yourself:

Get your free astrology chart

Understand your personality type

Learn your top strengths

Looking for more support? Check out the links below to see if Sarah or Stacy could be the right fit for where you are on your journey. We’d be honored to help you. You can also email hello@unpolished.community with any questions or to learn more.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

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Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 39: An Unpolished Journey Interview with Dana Malstaff (Part 2)

Success does not find you, you find success.”

Have you listened to last week’s episode yet? Make sure to catch part one of this conversation before diving into today’s episode! In part two, we continue our conversation with Dana Malstaff—the CEO and founder of Boss Mom. Dana is a mother, author, business strategist, podcaster, blind spot reducer, and movement maker. She is the author of Boss Mom: The Ultimate Guide to Raising a Business & Nurturing Your Family Like a Pro. Dana has over 20k students in various courses and community that is over 30K strong. With over 10 years of experience in content creation, marketing, sales, community building, and business strategy, Dana grew the Boss Mom brand into a six-figure business in less than a year. Her Boss Mom Movement is all about losing the guilt when it comes to raising babies and businesses at the same time, and believes that pursuing our passions and building our dreams while including our children in the process, is the best way to build thriving businesses and families.

There are even more wise gems to be found in the second half of our conversation. Listen to this episode to learn:

  • The importance of following the breadcrumbs
  • Why you’re going to overbook yourself and overpromise
  • What happens when you chase the wrong problem, and why it’s so important to talk to someone when you’re going through any kind of transition
  • The need to celebrate what you’re good at, hire people for what you’re not, and find where you waste time
  • Why starting a business isn’t just about finding your passion
  • And more!

Let us know what resonated most with you from this episode. What’s one thing you can tweak about your approach to your business? You can learn more about Dana by visiting www.boss-mom.com

Find out if Dana has a program that is right for you. (Trust us she does)

Raising Your Business

Boss Mom Academy (Join and hang out with Sarah!)

 

 

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

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Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Photo Credit: CJ Thomas Photography

 

Unpolished 37: A Tornado In Your Face

Things aren’t always supposed to feel good, and things aren’t always supposed to be easy. But, we’re never taught to accept this so when difficult circumstances happen to us it feels “wrong” or “bad”. We also often refer to life as “busy” or “crazy”, but isn’t that exactly what life is all about? Instead, we can choose to feel peace, or choose to feel balanced, and look for all aspects of life instead of focusing on the uncomfortable parts.

It’s important to acknowledge that our lives are not perfect pie charts—life changes often and we need to adjust the requirements we have for what areas need our attention and what we need in order to truly feel balance. Our challenge is becoming aware of what we uniquely need and building the ability to know where and how to adapt to what shows up.

Our reminder to you is that it’s not broken just because it’s not awesome all the time. Becoming comfortable with discomfort is truly a superpower skill worth working on. So our challenge to you this week is to give yourself permission to be okay with wherever you are at right now. How would that change your outlook today?

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Daring Greatly, Brene Brown

Mind Over Medicine, Dr. Lissa Rankin

The Whole Health Cairn

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 33: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Sam Kelly

“I think of failure as a closed door. It’s not a dead end, but it helps me move into a different direction. Nothing else teaches me as quickly, so then I say bring on the closed doors!”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk with Sam Kelly—a family film photographer @samkelly_world based in Salt Lake City, UT and co-founder of @photonative, a large annual photography conference. With a Masters degree in Art Therapy Counseling, a self-published author, and experience teaching Stress Management at the college level, Sam loves anything and everything in which personal story, creativity, and healing intersect. Currently, Sam is a homeschooling mama of three and married to the most patient, supportive guy in the world.

We hear the story of how Photo Native came to be, why she almost decided to shut it down, and how it’s so important to approach a business from a place of finding a way to meet your people’s core needs of love and belonging.

We dive into the ideas of failure and fear and talk about how shifting our view on these can have a powerful impact on our life. Sam shares how losing all her clients was one of the best things that ever happened to her, and why not seeing that as a failure was a huge part of the entire trajectory of her career. There are so many ways to define success and making money is only one indicator, not the end all be all. Her best advice is to never stop being vulnerable— truly opening yourself up to others is the way to open doors faster than anything else.

Reframing failure as a closed door has really stuck with both us, and we encourage you to try on this mindset for the week. What would that mean if you looked at your failures as closed doors? Let us know in the comments below!

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 27: The Emotional Rollercoaster

What makes your soul come alive? What did you love doing as a child and how does that show up in your life today?

When we start to clear away the clutter of who we think we should be and live as ourselves, there’s so much power and strength because there isn’t as much room for fear. The outcomes matter less because the feelings we’re after are felt simply by being who we are and standing in our truth.

We’re going to experience both ends of the spectrum (the high-highs and the low-lows) and we need to get comfortable knowing that neither one lasts, so it’s important to let go of trying to hold onto it or trying to resist it. It’s also important for us to feel the full range of emotions, and not only just the positive ones.

Our challenge to you this week is to feel the feelings—pick one good and one negative experience and truly feel it. Also become aware of what makes your soul alive so you can find ways to sneak more of it into your life. Let us know in the comments what this process is like for you!

And for more context, check out Episode 10: Authenticity where we originally talk about the metaphor of “the room”: http://unpolished.community/2018/02/13/unpolished-10-authenticity/  

To listen to the episode Sarah’s mentions from The Life Coach School podcast by Brooke Castillo: https://thelifecoachschool.com/189/

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

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Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 26: An Unpolished Journey Interview With Monica Packer

“People get caught up in not starting something because they don’t think it’s going to be successful. That’s the biggest failure of all—to not even start. Nothing is a failure if it’s leading you to something else or helping you grow.”

In this episode of the Unpolished Journey, we talk to fellow podcaster Monica Packer of About Progress. Monica Packer is a podcaster, writer, and recovering perfectionist.  She is a wife and mother of four young children, living in the San Francisco East Bay. Monica is passionate about empowering women to find, develop, and own their own gifts by refusing to be held back by their fears of imperfection.   

We talk about the messy and stressful process of jumping in and starting something new, what Monica learned about herself from starting a blog and then a podcast, and why it’s important to do and try things in order to discover what our gifts are.

In her work, Monica has found that everyone wants to know what their gifts are, but the purpose is the process of discovering what these gifts are because there isn’t an easy way to know what they look like. We talk about her mission to help women discover their gifts and have confidence in finding the right way to share them with the people who need them most, and acknowledge that it’s so hard to own our gifts, but we do ourselves a huge disservice but not exploring this aspect of our lives.

We also talk about the challenges of social media and the difference between being authentic vs. thinking we need to have something important to say, the struggle of untangling our self-worth from engagement numbers, and the difference between bad vs. good business decisions.

You can learn more about and connect with Monica at www.aboutprogress.com and on Facebook and Instagram at @aboutprogress. And if you haven’t checked out her About Progress podcast yet, go listen to an episode now— there are two years of inspiring conversations waiting for you!

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community

Unpolished 24: The Little Things Lead to the Big Things

We continue our conversation from previous episodes on the idea of “unfolding” and look at how truly surrendering to this process and noticing how all the little pieces fall into place helps take the pressure off. While this perspective is empowering, it’s certainly not our natural inclination and is a choice we have to continue to make over time by training our brain. We share specific examples from our lives as to how this is showing up for us and explore how even the small or frustrating parts of our experiences are still part of this unfolding process. If we do the work and let go of the outcomes, it’s a much more fulfilling approach.

Our challenge to you this week is to simply put something out there and be curious about what it will teach you. What’s one thing that’s inspired you or you’ve been contemplating? Go do that thing and let us know how it feels.

After listening to this episode, come join our growing community on Facebook or Instagram. We would love to hear your story, support you in your struggles, and celebrate your success.

You can learn more about us and the businesses we’re building here:

Sarah Carpenter:

Candelera Coaching Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Stacy Weinstein:

Hello Healing Website  I  Instagram  I  Facebook

Feel free to reach out to us anytime at hello@unpolished.community